Icon from a picrew by grgikau. Call me Tir or Julian. 37. He/They. Queer. Twitter: @tirlaeyn. ao3: tirlaeyn. 18+ Only. Star Trek. Sandman. IwtV. OMFD. Definitionless in this Strict Atmosphere.
every mother’s day there’s always “remember moms are everything” posts and every father’s day there’s always “it’s okay if you’re traumatized, you don’t have to celebrate it” posts and that’s fine of course, I just never see the opposite. so reminder you don’t have to celebrate your mother. you have your reasons. be proud of yourself and don’t let the holiday get you down.
I honestly feel like media needs to start portraying more lesbians and gay men who didn’t realize they were gay until much later in life. Lesbians and gay men who married the opposite sex and had a family. Lesbians and gay men with religious traumas that made it hard for them to understand they could have been gay. Lesbians and gay men who honestly struggle to make the connection that they are gay because of how ingrained societal standards are in them. I need for the media to start having characters that didn’t always know. Not everyone always knows and it would be beneficial to show that. There is no time limit on realizing your sexuality or gender.
When people say “defund the police is too scary” ask them how scary this graphic is and ask if the funding police get correlates to the conditions in the city or if that same money would be better off reallocated to… Let’s say a fucking library
*takes a deep breath* Okay, let me engage with you in good faith here. Let’s give this a shot.
The context of your question is this: Is it okay if news sites like Buzzfeed and stuff have Pedro Pascal read horny tweets or ask him his opinion on how people are calling him Daddy.
The question you are asking is this: Saying that this is shitty is just Puritanism.
Here is my answer:
Anon. Pedro Pascal is a service worker. For the purposes of this context, he is quite literally not the slightest bit different from a Starbucks barista or a Target cashier or a mall food court employee. He is someone who is performing their job, and their job entails existing in public and being polite and smiley and not making the public uncomfortable, even if the public is, say, sexually harassing him.
By placing celebrities into scenarios in which they are forced to answer or acknowledge the fact that there are fans who are objectifying and fetishizing them, and asking those celebrities to respond to said fans, those celebrities are now being forced to experience a form of sexual harassment. I do not care if you are calling Pedro Pascal daddy on the Internet. He’s hot. I’ve called him Daddy, for Christ’s sake. The problem is not that people enjoy seeing what movie stars look like on a screen. That is their literal job description.
The problem, the sole and only problem here, and it is a big one, is when those movie stars are being shown tweets or fanfic or whatever, I don’t care, of how their fans have graphic and explicit sexual desires for them, and this is being done to create content, and that content is being made to make someone a lot of money because people will click a link to watch or read how Pedro Pascal reacted to learning about his fans calling him Daddy and what they want him to do to them, when he is in a public interview where whatever his reaction is will be unavoidably recorded and picked apart by dozens of thousands of parasocially horny vultures with no sense of tact or boundaries.
Does this make sense, Anon? Do you understand now why this isn’t “just Puritanism”?
Having a crush on your local Starbucks barista is okay.
Having a crush on your barista and telling other people about it is okay.
Having a crush on your barista and writing lurid self-insert fanfic about you and the barista is okay.
Having a crush on your barista, writing lurid self-insert fanfic about you and the barista, and then mailing that shit to her workplace so she’s forced to see it and then asking her invasive questions about it in public, while she’s making you a latte, is weird and gross.
Photocoping your coworker’s lurid self-insert fanfic about them and the barista you know they have a crush on, and then mailing that shit to her workplace and then asking her invasive questions about it in public, while she’s making you a latte, is weird and gross for both her and your coworker.
polls are great but the little “lack of engagement” sentiment that kinda flared up when they dropped was soooo weird. “why aren’t you guys reblogging!!! this isn’t how this site works you have to share things so more people see them!!!”. how can you genuinely believe people are obligated to reblog your post just because they clicked one button to vote in your poll? i think if your post was funnier people would want to reblog it more but it’s never that it’s “too many new people who don’t know how this site works”. man even if the funniest, most culturally significant post of all fucking time dropped tomorrow not a single person is obligated to reblog it if they don’t want to. get over yourself
I just so badly hate the denigrating of previous romantic partners/relationships to justify a much beloved ship. If the previous partner actually as a bad person, then fine! But when it was just not the right match - for either of them - then we don’t need to act like it was due to character flaws.
I just really hate feeling like I need to defend a person and/or relationship that I don’t care about and don’t want happening anyway!
