kaelio:

kaelio:

I think we are kind of blessed in “The Wire” that we see Garak cry. Love seeing male characters cry. Love that. When it’s onscreen I’m like… he is crying ! oh! tears down his face… 

If you’re thinking this means I’m team woobie garak, it’s not that. it’s just cool and fun if he’s mean and petty and murderous but also still cries. he is the gay rep i want and need.

manywinged:

literally nothing matters. except winged characters sheltering other characters under their wings. that’s extremely important actually.

lilybee:

bakwaaas:

You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognise their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behaviour change.

if you’re in the notes saying “this is wrong and cruel because everyone is capable of growth” you’re not understanding the post.

yes, everyone is CAPABLE of growth and change. everyone has the RIGHT to growth and change. but no, not everyone will CHOOSE growth and change. some people are not interested in and cannot be made interested in self-improvement or self-reflection. some people will go their entire lives refusing to admit they might be wrong or examine their own behaviors. some people will never, ever accept responsibility for the effects they have on people and the world around them. humans are varied; some are just always gonna be like this.

it is VITAL to understand this if you’re the kind of person who tends to pour energy into helping others, especially if there are already people knowingly hurting you who consistently show absolutely no interest in changing that behavior. you can’t forcibly make them want to change who they are. you aren’t going to find a way to convince them to suddenly care that their behavior is hurting someone.

the motivation to change and grow comes from within. others may inspire us, but WE have to decide we want to be better and work towards that. until they decide that for themselves, nobody else can do it for them. and they might never. people are mortal. we are a finite series of choices. it is entirely possible to make mostly selfish ones.

everyone CAN grow, but not everyone will. not everyone wants to, and nobody can force the desire to grow as a person on someone else.

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im always trying to talk about this in a way that makes sense and rarely manage to articulate myself but. the culture and trend of like, only giving queer support to people who have verbalised their queerness in this very labelled clear cut public way is shit. the idea of individuals ‘queer baiting’ or 'straight’ people not being allowed certain behaviours or being !mocked! for certain effeminate or masculine behaviours because they haven’t explicitly stated they’re queer is just baffling. cultivating an atmosphere of making fun of people (or accusing them of faking for clout?) for their deviations from heteronormativity because they’re 'straight’ is still homophobia, still transphobia, still deeply uncomfortable environment for the person being talked about and other queer people overhearing this shi

like i don’t know how to put this any other way than even people you perceive as straight deserve support in a queer way

Basically some people are never going to articulate their queerness in the same way that you have/the same way you’re familiar with and some people will actually just be straight lol but either way, the way we all treat people needs to get rid of his idea that there’s a checklist you have to meet before you can access queer support (whatever that might look like)

space-snake:

I’m watching ds9 and

I want bashir and garak to adopt a cardassian war orphan together

bakasara:

SORRY BUT what better ending for julian - who’s kind and compassionate and vain and sometimes tactless, whose naivete in calling kira’s homeworld a “frontier” was not only arrogant but also ironic, as we learn that the particular abuse he suffered disanchored him from “home” and made him feel permanently alienated - what better ending for him than going to post-Dominion Cardassia to practice life-saving medicine (nothing “frontier” about it), at home beside the exile he fell in love with, another survivor of childhood abuse with a complex allegiance to his lifelong “home” who loves julian wholly back. WHAT BETTER ENDING I ASK!!!

pikechris:

we learn in ASIT that garak was canonically jealous of miles for stealing julian away from him… well I say he should’ve just stolen keiko away from miles in revenge and started building an arboretum or a community garden or growing some plants to put on the promenade to make it look nicer with her. they’d both be doing something they love AND as a result miles would be jealous of garak and make sure to spend time with his wife, which would mean he’d spend less time with julian and julian would be free to spend time with garak. it’s a win-win

natalieironside:

natalieironside:

Btw I’m pro-quitting.  This is a quitting-positive space.  If you’re doing something and you decide “I don’t like this” or “I don’t want to do this” then you should quit.  Quitting is awesome.  Grinding only works in video james.

I quit all the time.  It’s great.

Embrace the power of “Y’know what? Fuck this” and see how it can improve your life

terribleoldwhitemen:

just read in the deep space nine companion that when “the wire” first aired, fans felt it didn’t really reveal anything about garak. and like. preaching to the choir here on tumblr dot com but the whole POINT of “the wire” is that the quote-unquote truth of garak’s past isn’t actually important. the “truth” is not a location and a name and a list of crimes committed–it’s much more essential than that, especially when put into the context of garak’s relationship with bashir, which the episode literally revolves around.

garak is experiencing the worst pain of his life and desperately seeking help. bashir is offering, but even in extremity, garak can’t accept. he’s done things which he knows bashir would find abhorrent, and though he doesn’t want to die, he also doesn’t want to be saved unless it’s in full knowledge of the price of the life that’s being bought. he could accept that ignorance from anyone else, but not from bashir–not from someone he’s grown (against his better judgement) to care about.

so garak takes away the polite fiction of plain and simple tailor. he strips back bashir’s veneer of deniability and lets him make an informed choice about whether or not garak’s is a life he finds worth saving. “especially the lies” isn’t just pithy misdirection: contained in the stories garak crafts is everything bashir really needs to know, and on some level, bashir recognizes that. he takes the worst that garak has to give and looks it over and says–I don’t care. I’m going to save you anyway.

and i think that’s beautiful and you know what??? i do think that’s beautiful. I’m sure garak delights in the irony of it, later: that here in hostile territory, embroiled in misery and isolation, he finally finds–at the hands of a foreigner–some measure of the recognition and acceptance he’s craved his entire life.