Icon from a picrew by grgikau. Call me Tir or Julian. 37. He/They. Queer. Twitter: @tirlaeyn. ao3: tirlaeyn. 18+ Only. Star Trek. Sandman. IwtV. OMFD. Definitionless in this Strict Atmosphere.
hey. to the fat person reading this who wants to transition or is transitioning. make your transition goals fat like you. please. the things you aim to gain from transition can be gained while fat. you can be/express your gender and be fat. there is nothing wrong with that, no matter what anyone says. i promise.
let yourself exist. let yourself be happy. you have just as much of a right as every other person in this world to do that, especially as you transition. it’s okay. you’re going to be alright, and you’re also going to look fucking awesome. you already look fucking awesome. it’s your body. own it.
“Toxic masculinity” doesn’t mean that all masculinity is toxic it means that some traits we push onto men can seriously harm them and the people around them fellas is 2022 we should all know this by now.
It is extremely important to talk about Toxic Masculinity’s harm on men themselves because dismissing emotional repression, constant masking, overcompensation and anger as a synonym of strenght will only lead to more problems for absolutely everyone.
Your moral ocd is lying to you and tumblr is lying to you. you do NOT have to reblog any post you dont want to and you dont need to justify it and youre not prejudiced against a certain marginalized group if you dont reblog an Upsetting Post about a Current Issue said group is facing
Trans people are still allowed to be happy, still sexy, still worthy of life and prosperity, still allowed to be imperfect gross and normal people, still allowed to find themselves, still allowed to be selfish and still allowed to survive and be remembered.
STOP RECORDING QUEER PEOPLE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT AND POSTING IT ONLINE YOU ARE PUTTING US IN DANGER‼️‼️‼️
AT SOCIAL GATHERINGS AT PRIDE IN THE STREET DOESN’T MATTER ASK THEIR PERMISSION‼️‼️‼️‼️
EXISTING IN PUBLIC NO MATTER HOW “WEIRD”≠ CONSENT TO BE IN A WANNABE INFLUENCER’S VIDEO FOR ALL TO SEE
STOP RECORDING PEOPLE IN GENERAL ‼️ ITS FUCKING CREEPY AND YOU COULD BE ACTIVELY PUTTING THEM IN DANGER ‼️‼️ YOU DON’T KNOW WHO’S HIDING FROM SOMETHING OR JUST LEFT A BAD SITUATION ‼️‼️ ALSO EVEN IF THEY WERENT YOU STILL SHOULDN’T RECORD THEM WITHOUT PERMISSION AND OPEN THEM TO RIDICULE AND HAVING TO DEAL WITH A VIDEO THEY DONT WANT ONLINE ‼️‼️‼️ HAVE SOME BASIC FUCKING DECENCY ‼️‼️‼️
always bothers me when “improvements” to unhealthy diets are all about taking tasty things away rather than ADDING new things. like. add new tastes and new flavours and MORE NUTRIENTS and vitamins
there was some awful show on for encouraging middle class mothers to take their eating disorders out on their children and it was like “oh well, this snack doesn’t taste as good as my usual one, but it’s healthier”
so get one that??? actually tastes as good?
like this thing of. you know this food that you like and enjoy eating? why don’t you toss all that out and eat stuff you don’t enjoy as much or want to eat?
that’s unhinged to me.
like i just think the process of discovering newer, healthier foods should be ADDITIVE, where you’re exploring new tastes alongside your usual ones, slowly broadening your palate and your preferences, rather than punishing yourself for “unhealthy” food
(CW eating disorders)
god i feel so strongly about this bc i could not figure out how to strike a balance between “eating foods that make me feel good” and “not relapsing back into disordered eating habits” until i switched my mindset from “i need to remove unhealthy foods from my diet” to “i need to figure out which foods makes me feel good and add them to my diet”
examples:
moving from “i want a snack. chips sound really good, but i can’t eat chips because they’re unhealthy, so i guess i just won’t eat anything” to “i want a snack. chips sound really good, so i’m gonna eat some, but because i haven’t had any fruits or veggies today, i’m gonna eat some grapes with them”
moving from “i’m craving a burger and fries from mcdonald’s, but that’s unhealthy, so i’m just gonna eat some plain brown rice and grilled chicken even though those don’t sound good” to “im craving mcdonald’s, but last time i ate that it upset my stomach, so i don’t think eating it would make me feel good. but i think what my craving is telling me is that i need carbs and protein, so how about i make some steak and mashed potatoes for dinner?”
moving from “i’m in too much pain to cook tonight, but frozen food is unhealthy, so i just won’t eat anything” to “im in too much pain to cook tonight, so im gonna eat a frozen meal, but im gonna add some pre-cooked chicken and frozen spinach to it because i think the protein and veggies will make my body feel good”
and honestly this has been so much better for me and i feel so much better both physically and mentally than when i was just focused on “i can’t eat anything that’s Unhealthy”
I vividly remember attending a training session with a scan from an 1880-something newspaper that said “unions used to be something we needed, but we’re past that now.” The corporate propaganda hasn’t changed in 130+ years.
Lots of people think the opposite of patriarchal messaging is “actually, men are bad and women are good”
When in reality, the opposite of patriarchal messaging is “there is no immutable difference between a man and a woman and no trait belongs only to one group or the other. Goodness or badness is entirely individual and not tied to gender in any meaningful way”
might i add– everyone is capable of doing good or bad things, but neither goodness nor badness are intrinsic qualities
i cannot stress how much it benefits the patriarchy for you to believe in immutable differences between men and women. if there’s no difference, there’s nothing for the patriarchy to grab onto. it has to enforce that narrative so strongly because that narrative is the foundation it builds itself on.
