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smarmygryffindor:
“ hushed-obscenities:
“ smarmygryffindor:
“ @ people deploring the lack of “civility” and “politeness” from the left after the election
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I think I remember reading in an ask.fm response by @hbomberguy something along the lines of,...

smarmygryffindor:

hushed-obscenities:

smarmygryffindor:

@ people deploring the lack of “civility” and “politeness” from the left after the election

I think I remember reading in an ask.fm response by @hbomberguy something along the lines of, “your goal in life shouldn’t be not to be a dick, but to be a dick to the right people”, and I feel like that’s generally a good mentality. Like, if you really want to stand up for what’s right in the world, you’ve got to abandon any commitments you might have to being a “nice” person universally, given how useless of a response that is to displays of abject evil.

Exactly. Kindness is paramount, but if kindness to someone necessitates ignoring or accepting the dehumanization of others, save your kindness for someone more deserving.

aandyrea:

gendering strangers is a bad habit
gendering strangers is something we have to unlearn
gendering strangers is something I’m still working on not doing
gendering strangers is harmful

please please please
unlearn what society has taught you
train yourself to say “they” until told differently by the individual