so i wore noise cancelling headphones today. specifically, on the bus ride back from school; i was too anxious to actually take them out during the school day, lmao. and one girl asked “why do you have those?” I explained a bit about sensory issues, and then just trailed off with “anyway… I need them”. and like. strictly speaking. that is not 100% true. I don’t need them like I need food or water. I won’t die without them. And unless I’m right near a meltdown, I can usually stay in a loud room as long as I’m *supposed* to.
But I do still need my headphones.
They let me function easier and more happily. I feel so, so much calmer and safer at home… which is when I let myself wear the headphones. I felt the same way when i went to the mall in the city and wore noise cancelling headphones there.
So, like. if you have a Thing you use that you don’t technically, 100% ABSOLUTELY NEED to function… keep it anyway. use it anyway.
Wear sunglasses in rooms with too-bright lights, use your cane or walker because it just makes things easier, use your wheelchair when you could probably walk, wear noise cancelling headphones or ear defenders even when you can stand to be in the room without it, use your hearing aids even if you can get by sorta OK without them, keep fidget/stim toys or comfort items around because they make you happier, etc etc etc.
You do not need to wait until you’re hurting as much as you can to use the thing that helps you.
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miscommunication as a plot device makes me angry
if you just talked to each other but no
oh snap
I know it’s trendy to fight the system and cry that we are all becoming slaves of technology, but this attitude overlooks that computers and phones are tools for communicating. When someone thinks I’m an idiot smiling at a machine, I’m actually smiling at my girlfriend who is 10000 miles away and whom I would have never met if not for these newfangled electronics. As they say: when the wise man points to the moon, the fool looks at the finger.
This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to tackle for a while now; much credit to this excellent post for bringing it to the front of my brain.
Fucking this.
Fucking thank you.
INTERNET FRIENDS ARE REAL FRIENDS.
As someone who now lives with the woman she met online and as someone who has been with her for 13 years I get really REALLY irritated with the mentality of “technology is evil” and “you’re not actually socializing” like, fuck you, we got to know each other for 5 years then we moved in together and are still together, so shut up.
Been married for ten+ years to a guy I met on Usenet when I was eighteen and he was seventeen. We joke that all our “college friends” we still talk to were people from the newsgroups and IRC. And that was before Skype and such let you put a face to people…
Now, not all internet friends are “real friends” but hell, half the people you ate lunch with in high school probably weren’t real friends either.
^bolded important thing. seriously.
how do people even fuck up movie adaptations there’s literally a written plot all set out for you with character descriptions and dialogue
Reasons abortion should be fully covered on all insurance plans:
- If you can’t afford an abortion, you definitely can’t afford a pregnancy
- If you can’t afford an abortion, and are forced to carry a pregnancy to term anyway, you sure as hell can’t afford a child
Who the fuck do you think you’re really protecting here?
Average cost of a first trimester abortion in the United States: less than $500.
Average cost of raising a child in the United States: $245,000
(http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/05/08/1979831/women-struggle-afford-abortion/)