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And remember, if you see folks with tattoos, car decals, or flags of these symbols or any other recognized white supremacist/neo-nazi/fascist symbols, GET PHOTOS OF THAT SHIT. I really cannot stress this enough. Make their faces and vehicles known.
YOUR TRANS SIBLINGS ARE STILL HERE WAITING FOR YOU! it’s okay and reasonable to be afraid, but not a single one of you will EVER be alone.
I’m here for you! Seriously, all my readers, I’m sure there’s at least some of you out there and I’m here for you. As a a trans adult who is out and living the life I want to live. I’m here if you need me.
Same. Here for adults, too.
The online trans community still exists. We are all terrified, but we are still here, and we are here for each other. If anyone needs someone to talk to (especially trans kids), just send a message to myself or someone else who is willing to help. We can and will fight this, but first and foremost, we need to make sure that we as a community are safe, and that we can still help each other.
Again if you’re looking to get married before you lose that right please contact me I can marry you and they won’t be able to take that away
This is a very serious offer just to be clear
To clarify I’m offering to officiate your marriage as a minister to make sure that you are married before any actions can be taken against your right to do so
I’m located in Virginia right now but I’m willing to travel a little and some states allow marriages via webcam so if yours allows that then that’s an option
I’m going to add my voice to this. I live in Washington State, near Seattle, and I’m a registered minister. I officiated the wedding of my friends Chris and Wayne when we got marriage equality here, and I’m more than happy to help others who need it.
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I was just complaining to my friend that my oldest sister didn’t know what to do the last time I had a convulsive seizure, and I ended up injured because of it. And my friend said that actually, they don’t know what to do when they see someone have a convulsive seizure, either.
So I thought I’d explain it to you. I’m not a doctor, and I have no medical training and not everything here will apply to everyone who has convulsive seizures, these are just the things that apply to me, and when in doubt, call an ambulance.
Here’s what you do:
Look around. Am I lying in the middle of a busy street or on the railroad tracks, or somewhere else dangerous, like in the bathtub? If yes, drag me to somewhere where I am not in imminent danger of being hit by a truck or drowning.
Am I somewhere safe, but lying near dangerous things like fire or knives or broken glass or pans of boiling water or anything that can hurt me? Move the dangerous things away from me.
My body will be convulsing. That means my head and my arms and my legs are rapidly hitting the ground. Put something soft underneath my head. If there’s a cushion right there, perfect. If not, wad up your coat or shove your shopping bag under my head. If there’s nothing immediately to hand that would take you more than a few seconds to grab, stick your feet underneath my head, it’ll work.
Am I wearing anything around my neck, like a tight collar, or a necktie, or a choker? Loosen it, so my airway is clear.
Don’t restrict my movements - don’t try to hold my arms and legs down. You’ve already moved all the dangerous things away from me, and cushioned my head, so don’t hold me down, unless it is necessary to keep me from doing serious harm.
Don’t put anything in my mouth. A lot of people think you need to stick your fingers or a spoon or something into the person’s mouth to prevent them choking on their tongue. Don’t do this.
Try to make a note of the time the seizure first started. If the seizure lasts for longer than five minutes, call an ambulance.
When the convulsing/jerking has stopped, roll me onto my side. If you know what the recovery position is, put me in the recovery position, if you don’t, just roll me onto my side, and check my airway. If I’m not breathing, or I’m having trouble breathing, call an ambulance.
It seems to be instinctive to help someone get back to their feet as soon as the seizure is over. Don’t do this with me. After a seizure, I’m in something called a post-ictal state. It makes me very, very confused, and lying on the ground or sitting somewhere soft is the safest place for me. If you pull me to my feet while I’m still this confused, I will walk directly into traffic or put my hand on a hot stove because I won’t know where I am, or what’s happening, and often I won’t be able to see at all for a few minutes. Keep me somewhere safe until I’ve fully recovered.
If I have another seizure before I’ve fully recovered from the earlier one, call an ambulance.
If you think I might be hurt, or you’re confused or not sure about what to do, call an ambulance.
That’s all there is to it. Make sure I’m not in immediate physical danger; cushion my head (but don’t restrain it); when the jerking stops, roll me onto my side and check my airway; keep me somewhere safe until I’m fully recovered, and if the seizure lasts a long time, or I have a second one, or you aren’t sure what to do or you think I might be hurt, call an ambulance. That’s it. It’s not hard, and I promise you can do this.
THIS THIS THIS The last time I had a convulsive seizure in public, somebody held my arms down and both shoulders dislocated
Not is this only relevant to me, but everyone should know this. I usually can feel mine coming and I can get myself seated, but I, usually, am not able to warn other people that its coming.
hey there LGBTQ kids who are also Christian/Jewish! If you feel like you’re disobeying God, questioning your faith, or feel wrong and dirty for loving who you love, there’s this fantastic site I found today called hoperemains that accurately and thoroughly combs through scripture and its (many) mistranslations, validates your orientation, and basically let’s you know that you’re not pissing off God. It’s insanely thorough and after reading through every page on the entire site it’s super helpful. Go check it out!
hoperemains is completely from a Christian perspective, and not pluralistic or interfaith at all.
If you reblogged the first post from me please reblog this amendment so the Jewish peeps can access this resource too!
Trans Jewish kids, you can go to TransTorah as well!
Muslim LGBTQ kids, you can go to iamnotharaam! It’s run by a mod squad of different genders and orientations, and they take submissions from everybody!
–BB
MAY ANYONE WHO REBLOGS THIS BE ELEVATED TO THE EQUIVALENT OF SAINTHOOD IN THEIR RELIGION BLESS ALL OF YOU OH MY GOD.
REBLOGGING THIS AGAIN BECAUSE IT’S SO FREAKING IMPORTANT TO ME AND ALL MY FOLLOWERS TO READ THAT DEAL WITH GRIEF AND GUILT WHILE BEING LGBTQ AND RELIGIOUS
When you guys have visited potential apartments, what kind of questions did you ask besides the basics like what rent and utilities include?
Here are questions I didn’t ask but should have: what does the basement look like?
What measures are taken to secure the building ?
Are the walls thin? Brief info of who lives in the building. Are they college kids? People that work through the day? Elderly? Is it a mix? Where does the garbage go?
Can I pay rent bi-weekly? What kind of fuses does the apartment use? (My fuse box is in the basement. If I blow a fuse I have to replace it myself. They screw until the box. All of which I didn’t know until it happend and I was sitting in the dark suddenly)
Who do I call for repairs? (If it’s a private rental) Am I allowed to paint the walls? Is there any additional storage? Do you do regular pest control?
LAUNDRY FACILITIES Definitely ask about security Whether subletting is allowed (esp if you’re in college and might want to sublet for the summer) If you have a car, whether there’s parking/how much it costs What kind of heating/AC there is Procedure/response time for any maintenance How mail/packages are received/protected from theft (seriously people stealing your packages can be a huge problem) What kind of verification of your salary will they want, and in what circumstances will they accept a guarantor instead? Whether the apartment is furnished
Assuming you are in the middle of looking at/choosing between places: When does the lease start? Are you going to give preference to people based on when they can move in? Whether groups of a certain number of people get preference Really anything about who they prioritize for applications, it can save you a lot of trouble in trying to apply to places you’ll never get into
TEST THE WATER PRESSURE IN THE SHOWER
I want to add:
Especially if you are renting a house from a single person, Know Your Area’s Building and Fire Codes.
Make sure the smoke detectors are up to date and working properly. Best case is for them to be hardwired, but it might not be required in your area.
Check for ventilation, especially in the kitchen and bathroom. Lack of ventilation leads to mold.
Make sure all the outlets work. Ask how the furnace and hot water heater are powered (electric or gas). Ask how old they are and when they were last inspected. Ask for an estimation of heating and cooling costs and other utilities. Ask about lawn care.
Ask about pet policy. Some landlords will only allow certain kinds or breeds of pets. Some will charge a flat fee and others a monthly fee.
Attention non-artists who commission artists: don’t fuckin do this???
Actually had someone do this to me too. Was doing a art stream, it took me over 2 hours to do his inked commission, he got a refund cause ‘it took too long’ that he figured I wasn’t going to do it after I gave him the file.
Don’t do this. Do not.
I’ve had this happen to me with a $350 comic :/ I had already finished it, it was full color, 6 panels and had a full bg in every panel. I was lucky in that I didn’t spend him money yet, but it left me without funds. I’ve also had the above happen to me as well.
Don’t do this shit to artists. We’re people too. Drawing for you is more than a hobby. It’s a job.
Use Paypal Invoices.
I cannot stress this enough. That shit helps A LOT when it comes down to Paypal refunds/disputes.
There’s a description box that let’s you put in what the product is/how long it’ll take/yadda yadda, and then there’s another little memo box that only you and paypal can see where you can say it’s a digital commission and doesn’t require shipping (So Donald Mcfuck can’t say that they never got their commission).
And there’s also a box for your Terms & Conditions where you can say, if you have any conflicts/want a refund - email me, or you can actually tell the user that this is a digital commission and they won’t be getting a hard copy of it.
ARTISTS. PLEASE USE PAYPAL INVOICES. it will SAVE you. And to: the people who do this to artists – Fuck you. It’s okay if you change your mind and want a refund. But freaking TALK to us and let us know what’s going on. Let us WORK with you.
ALSO A HUGE TIP: Invoices paid will automatically set up a shipping notice which, if not fulfilled, can land you in SERIOUS hot water with PayPal. Since a lot of artists don’t print and ship the commissions, this is a huge problem.
However! Totally manageable. Just go to your PayPal, scroll down to find Seller Preferences
>> Shipping Preferences
>> Display Ship Button. Make sure all the boxes are unchecked. Then you’re all set!
There has been a virus malware that is using your skype and Facebook to send a link to the Chinese domain Baidu[.]com. This link is NOT being sent by the person but by the virus.
Please DO NOT CLICK THE LINK!
It will redirect you to another site that IS malware and it will attack all your files on your computer. If you get someone sending you a link to the domain of baidu DO NOT OPEN IT. Disregard the message and tell your friend that they have a virus on their computer.
If you do get this virus you will need to remove the malware via a virus protection program. Once it’s removed, change all your passwords and make sure all your files are backed up and not corrupted.
Share this warning so people know that baidu[.]com is a malware virus and it is spreading quickly. And as precaution, don’t open links with urls that you are not familiar with.
Staff did a really stupid and stealthy hotfix to the messaging system, where the new IM noises are incredibly loud, annoying screaming, laughing, ‘creepy’ noises in “””Halloween Spirit”””
if you don’t want to be harassed by these god-awful panic inducing noises then just go to your Settings >
Dashboard tab >
and make sure that your messaging sounds are turned OFF, to the LEFT
y’all should probably spread this post to avoid causing anyone panic attacks from random, loud BWAHAHAHAs.
