Icon from a picrew by grgikau. Call me Tir or Julian. 37. He/They. Queer. Twitter: @tirlaeyn. ao3: tirlaeyn. 18+ Only. Star Trek. Sandman. IwtV. OMFD. Definitionless in this Strict Atmosphere.
Grammatically speaking, Pronouns are a game we play with society.
A crew of sailors discuss their ship. “her mast is strong but the sails need changin. She’s a beaut though.”
I see a fancy rock on my hike. I pick it up, turn to my friend and say “Look at him, he’s so handsome”
A group of our sparkling Gay gentlemen meet up for a night out. “Girl, Daniel’s serving up looks tonight. Queen! She’s stunning love. She’s killin it.”
My neighbor needs a cup of sugar, I take some to them.
My lesbian friend wants to introduce me to her fellow female partner. “There’s Star, he’s wearing the blue jacket. Let’s catch up with him”
What’s real is how respect for one another makes us feel. He/him lesbians deserve your respect.
Pronouns are also more related to gender presentation than gender itself for some people!
Lesbians calling themselves “fathers”, “husbands”, “boyfriends”, “handsome”, and other words associated with men are a part of their gender presentation as masculine women as well as their reclamation of the idea that “lesbians just want to be men”. He/Him pronouns is just a part of that!
@SaraSoueidan: Dear men, This is how you greet a veiled Muslim woman (a Hijabi). Hand on your chest, not offering to shake hers. 🙋
so prominent BLM activist deray mckesson just retweeted this which i think is super cool for various reasons :)))
I did not know this. Is it OK for a non Muslim woman to shake hands with a Hijabi? Or do we do the hand on chest thing too?@popcanpoli
hey so i don’t wear a hijab and i’m not muslim so i definitely don’t have the authority to answer this question (or any other questions i’ve been getting abt this) (i’m just a lil canadian politics blog i didn’t expect this to blow up lol)
BUT here are some tweets by the original tweeter (who wears a hijab) that clarify some things
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This is also good if you’re meeting an Orthodox Jewish person who’s not the same gender as you! Not all Orthodox Jews hold by this restriction, and many consider it a permissible exception to shake hands in a formal greeting context; I’d guess this is parallel to Ms. Soueidan’s last-quoted tweet above. And as that says, the sensible thing is to wait for initiation.
Conversely, please don’t consider it rude if I, as an Orthodox woman, do not extend my hand to shake yours on first meeting you. I will shake hands if someone (male or female) extends theirs; we hold very strictly on not embarrassing the other person, which can be extended to “don’t snub an offered hand when the handshake is considered part of the social contract of the exchange,” such as in a business context. But (even though I am not personally shomeret negiah) it is not my habit to extend my hand. So please don’t take it personally if I don’t initiate handshakes.
“I’m 144 points away from being a chess Grandmaster. It’ll probably take me another four or five tournaments to get there. I haven’t lost a game in a long time.”
skippier: can we hear the story of the gavel-thieving student
Once upon a time during my first year of teaching, I needed some gavels for Class Congress. A student volunteered to make me some in his woodshop class if I brought him some materials. So he cut, built, stained and polished a stair rail I bought. They were the first and best teacher gift I ever received:
Near the end of the semester, I went to get one out of my podium and found they were both missing. We looked for them and some students came up with some theories as to who took them, but I never saw them again. I later bought 3 of my own gavels, but they just aren’t as special as these two were. Since then I’ve had decorations (school funds don’t cover these, I DO), supplies, and even my lunch stolen, so I’m used to it by now.
Guys, respect your teachers. I don’t care how much you don’t like them, NONE OF THOSE THINGS ARE YOURS.