There’ll be a lot of images making the rounds today purporting to be of signs from the London Underground. Some of them won’t really be, though. There are online Tube sign generators. Here’s what the output of one of them looks like… and then one sign that’s not.
Myth: All Autistic people lack empathy.
This phrase is often used to claim that we lack compassion, and compare us to serial killers and the like. Many people who say this are unaware that it is talking about the psychological, rather than moral, meaning of the term. In addition, this phrase is a gross generalization of a very diverse and vibrant community.
Fact: Autistic people experience empathy differently.
First, I would like to clarify what is meant by empathy.
There are three types of empathy: affective, cognitive, and compassionate.
Affective Empathy: You are sad, therefore I feel sad as well.
Compassionate Empathy: You are sad, therefore I want to help you feel better.
Cognitive Empathy: I can read your face and body language and tell that you are sad.
Some Autistic people may have a complete lack of cognitive empathy but may feel an abundance of affective empathy, or vice versa. Some of us may lack both cognitive empathy and affective empathy, but have an overwhelming need to help those who they perceive as needing help. Some might be lacking all three, and that still does not make them bad or wrong for being that way.
Thank you for your time, this has been a public service announcement.
It’s baby season!
Reblogging in case myself or my followers encounter orphaned possum babies.
Also important note! If they’re old enough, the babies WILL hiss and drool as a threat display. They likely DO NOT HAVE RABIES. Pasums have low body temps that make them poor hosts for rabies and they rarely- if ever- carry it. So while they look scary, that’s their aim. They want to be left alone. Don’t abandon a babby because you THINK they have rabies, because chances are, they don’t. Just pick them up and put them in a warm dark box lined with blankets and find a rehabber! (But always wear gloves.)
PSA cause this is cool & important!!
Imagine yourself.
- You are 14. You want to try dating. You wouldn’t want to date an 11 year old though, right? No, no way. You want someone your age!
- At 15, an 11 year old is out of the question! That’s just silly. Even 12 is too little– you might even have a younger sibling that age. Gross!
- At 16, would you date someone who is 13? (a middle schooler). You wouldn’t, right? As a high schooler, 13 is just a baby.
This phenomenon is NOT lost on adults. Take it from someone who IS one. As an adult, anyone who is a teenager is a child to us. This is not meant to be condescending; adults see teenagers as people who have growing to do. People who are so much younger, immature even. Small like a younger sibling who needs protecting. If you are underage, and an adult tells you that they see you as an adult and are attracted to you because of it, THIS IS A LIE. They see you as a child. If an adult tells you that they see you, who is underage, as an adult, stay away. That person is attracted to children. That person is a pedophile.
New rule, non muslims can’t say the word jihad. Until you stop conflating a word that means personal struggle with faith and temptation with terrorism youre just not allowed to say it.
I’m not a Muslim but I just thought I would reblog this because I think it’s definitely worth listening to.
It’s totally okay for non muslims to reblog this, and i encourage it. Im just glad you’re listening.
Oh god, finally someone said it. Every time I see words like “jihadist” I want to scream, but I’m not Muslim, so I wasn’t sure I should say anything.
Jihad means struggle. It doesn’t mean holy war or anything like it. In fact, there is no word in Islam for holy war, because the nature of Islam does not leave room for holy war. Islam has a juridical system, not a Pope who can just say “Go wage holy war.” Conflating the personal nature of jihad with violence is so very gross and it needs to stop. Period.
Actually, there’s another word non-muslims in the media shouldn’t use:
Allahu Akbar. It’s not a statement of terrorism. It means “god is great”. It’s something we say to praise our lord. It’s what we say when we pray. It’s not a statement of terrorism. Allahu Akbar doesn’t mean terrorism stop using it as one
Guys, I know everyone loves reblogging that Spencer gif of him getting punched in the face, but we shouldn’t be spreading the idea that it’s okay to punch Nazis.
I know whoever punched him had good intentions, but he could have seriously, seriously hurt his own hand. Punching someone in the face is probably the quickest way to break your fingers, so if you’re inclined to remind greasy, cowardly white supremacists that they’re not safe in your city, might I suggest forearm smashes, palms, and elbow strikes instead? They tend to hit just as hard/harder and don’t carry as much of a risk of injury. Maybe take some yoga classes so you can limber up and put your foot in their hate spewing teeth?
It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, but let’s be smart going forward folks.
The elbow and knee are the hardest parts of the body. Now, knee will give you more power, but an elbow has more versatility. Given the choice of a suckerpunch or an elbow strike, go with an elbow strike.
Remember kids: it’s not “fight smarter, not harder” it’s “fight smarter AND harder!”
I just want every teenage girl who’s just starting to have sex to know that it’s completely okay to NOT want to replicate porn, to NOT want to do anal, to NOT want to have threesomes and to NOT want to do bdsm. You’re not “boring” or “a prude” or “a kink shamer”, nor do you need to be fixed. You’re not wrong for not wanting to have wild unsafe or degrading sex. Your boundaries are completely okay and there’s nothing wrong with being “vanilla”.
Also it’s okay to not want to give blowjobs and to not want to have penetrative sex. It’s okay to back out of having sex that you previously agreed to. You do not owe anyone any kind of sex for any kind of reason, and if they cared about you they wouldn’t pressure you. It’s okay to not be ready for sex. (And it’s okay to never have sex!)
It’s okay to back out of having sex that you previously agreed to .
You do not owe anyone any kind of sex for any kind of reason .
Guys.
It’s okay to say no to dating a guy even though he’s nice. It’s okay to say no to sex with a guy even though he’s your boyfriend. It’s okay to say no to dating or sex with a guy even though he bought you something/stood up for you/shared his notes/anything really. If it’s okay if you only want to try certain kinds of sexual things, and you are allowed to say and enforce that those are all you’re interested in and the only things you’re going to do. It’s okay to break up with a dude who’s trying to pressure you in any way. It’s okay to report his behaviour to teachers or counselors or authorities or your parents/parental figures. And if an adult tries to downplay aggressive behaviour from a dude, it’s okay for you to report it to someone else until you’re taken seriously.
It’s freaking ok to Just say NO!!
it’s okay to say no to sex with someone you’ve said yes to sex with before. even if you enjoyed it. their hurt feelings and/or confusion/expectations do not trump your consent or dissent. consent is never, ever, at any time a contract to which you can agree at one time and be forced, in any way, to continue to hold to at any time thereafter. consent is not a contract. you can retract it or back out of any promises or permissions at any time, and you do not even owe someone a reason. no is a full sentence.
here’s an actual Hot Tip about talking to the press at protests: if you don’t want to, you don’t have to, but if you’re willing to be quoted under your real name it’s a great idea to go to the protest with an idea of what you’d like to say to the media in mind, because giving a reporter a good quote does help you and your cause. if you can tell them a personal story tying your own life to the issue you’re protesting, that’s even better. journalists are not going to misquote you, we don’t benefit from that.
conservatives understand the power of ordinary people talking to the press about their views and their grievances, there’s no reason leftists shouldn’t do the same.
YES YES YES YES YES
I literally pick SOTs (an archaic journalism term for what is essentially a soundbite) for a living.
The more personal, emotional, and informed (and CONCISE!!!!) a SOT is, the more likely I am to choose it!!!
Don’t memorize it - you’ll sound robotic! But remember one important detail you want to communicate and HIT IT.
Think of an interview as a conversation with a friend. WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU WOULD TELL A FRIEND ABOUT YOUR ISSUE/EXPERIENCE?If a reporter approaches you, and you don’t mind talking on camera…GOD BLESS YOU!
For your own safety, ask what organization the reporter works for and what their name is! Get their contact information too! If they’re not willing to provide it - THAT’S SHADY. Real journalists will always give you their info…WE’RE TRYING TO BUILD CONTACTS!If you agree to a quick interview about a given topic/event (what we call MOS’s or Man-On-The-Streets) DON’T WORRY ABOUT giving a precise quote. The reporter (if they are good) will try and guide you to giving your best quote.
If you’re nervous…try and integrate the reporter’s question into your response. Remember that the reporter’s question isn’t usually aired WITH your response, so your quote has to make sense on its own.Example:
Reporter: How do feel now that we’re officially under a Trump administration?
Answer: Scared. It’s really terrifying.
BETTER ANSWER: We’re officially under the Trump administration and it’s terrifying. I’m really scared.
Both answers are saying essentially the same thing, but only one makes sense without having to a news writer (me) having to contextualize it.
Writers like me are always working on a deadline, writing 3-4 (sometimes more) stories per newscast (which generally run back-to-back these days). We don’t have time to cut and remix every single interview into the perfect SOT, I’m sorry.
SO PLEASE…HELP ME…HELP YOU!!!
Having been misquoted and manipulated by the press before, I’m unsure how good I feel about the claim that no will manipulate your words. It’s just not true.
But, pick your battles- or in this case interviews.
If it’s a news outlet you trust, and you know (as in, have asked before, or been told) that leadership at your event is okay with you specifically, or people like you in general, speaking to the press then this is good advice.
It’s the sort of thing that many groups will also help train you to do, if speaking to the press is something you think you’ll do often.
I have someone staying in my hotel tonight that made me think that this would be worth sharing here.
If you are running away/trying to hide from someone that is frightening, abusing, harassing you, and you find yourself staying in a hotel to avoid being found, there’s an extra precaution you can take.
When you check in, ask the front desk clerk to put you as “Unlisted”. They’ll know what you’re talking about. What this means is that as far as anyone other than you and the front desk clerks are concerned, you’re not there. If someone tries to call for you and your room, “I’m sorry. I don’t have anyone registered under that name.” Same thing goes for it someone shows up at the desk. “Unlisted” means you’re untouchable.
Please, please, if you find yourself in trouble and seeking refuge in a hotel, do this. It’s really quick, easy, and painless for the front desk clerk to do, and they are not going to judge you for it.Please use actual words, not just code words. I work in a hotel and have NEVER heard of “Unlisted”. If someone were to come up to me and say that I would just look at you, confused, and ask for clarification.
Just flat out tell the front desk that you’re avoiding an abuser, if you say that you’re just avoiding something or someone, we may hesitate to comply, because you may be hiding from the police or law-enforcement. Please tell the front desk what you actually want us to do. Most places sign privacy/non-disclosure type agreements and if you say: “Hey, I’m hiding from a very bad situation and there might be some abusive people following me. Can you please either put me under a different name or make sure that no one contacts me?” we’ll do it and wont speak another word. Most places would even help you look up resources and try to get you transportation.
You can make it so most phones will be no contact, put up the do-not-disturb sign, and when shift change happens, if you’re still awake, tell the next person, because sometimes shift change is chaotic and important stuff can fall through the cracks. If you’re staying for multiple days, ask to speak with the general manager about your situation and they’ll make sure everything is enforced.
I worked at a hotel for almost 3 years, and I can confirm with the second post. You can additionally tell us at the front desk that no one is allowed to phone you, but you can phone out of your room.
Please do not be vague about it, we’ll likely think you’re up to something illegal. Just be upfront about it. No one’s allowed to see the guest list (or your name on the computer) besides the people working behind the counter, it’s a part of the confidentiality agreement.
Fuck I reblogged this before… Ignore that one. This is the right one