lembeau:

hey uterus havers, if you or someone you know is going through menopause where their periods have stopped or in the process of it where their periods have become lighter and lighter, and then they start bleeding again? they need to get to a gynecologist ASAP bc that isn’t normal. and if your family doc says, don’t worry, it takes some women longer to get through menopause, do not fucking listen to him and get thee to a gyn’s office. 

my med textbook says that even one drop of blood post menopause is abnormal. chances are if a uterus haver is bleeding from their vagina after menopause, or rebleeding like periods they had 15 yrs ago and need to change multiple pads/tampons, it might be endometrial cancer. good news is that when it’s caught early the prognosis is excellent. please don’t brush it off and think it’ll settle down and go away.

eriquin:

writertobridge:

I know a lot of people in the US are super excited for the eclipse on August 21st. I’m in that group. But if you’re going to look at the eclipse, you need solar eclipse glasses. No sunglasses. And don’t even think about going with no eye protection at all.  You can go blind if you look at the eclipse. Going without solar eclipse glasses is NOT optional.

That said, there are people cashing in on the solar eclipse craze. They’re making fake eclipse glasses. The Seattle Times reported on the fakes on August 8th and spoke with a spokesperson for the American Astronomical Society (AAS) about it. Even if the fake glasses seem safe, they’re not. Richard Tresch Fienbern from the AAS explained:

“The problem with fakes is that you can’t know if they’re letting unsafe levels of solar ultraviolet and/or infrared radiation into your eyes. You’d never know until it’s too late because our retinas don’t have pain receptors.”

The AAS has a page devoted entirely to what real ISO-compliant solar eclipse glasses look like.

This includes showing the correct text on the inside of the glasses. Click on this link to see the text.

According to the USA Today, there are only five companies that make eclipse glasses that are certified by the AAS and NASA: American Paper Optics, Baader Planetarium, Rainbow Symphony, Thousand Oaks Optical, and TSE 17. If you’re going to buy eclipse glasses used on eBay or another website, make sure that they come from one of these five manufacturers or have the correct text written inside.

Fake eclipse glasses can look incredibly convincing. Here is a pair that my mom purchased on eBay.

If you have some solar eclipse glasses already, look for this code:

ISO 12312-2

If that code is not on your solar eclipse glasses do not wear them. Even if they are safe, it is not worth the risk. You can do irreversible damage to your eyes if you look at an eclipse without the right eye wear. This includes blindness. Again, you can go blind if you look at an eclipse with improper eye wear.

Be safe. Get the real deal. The links have been provided to you above.

Please spread this post so more people can see it.

Thank you.

Don’t just skim this post and think that if you see that code on your glasses it’ll be good enough. Here’s the American Astronomy Society list of approved vendors. They’ve reviewed the ISO paperwork for these vendors. Remember, you can’t test if your glasses are good enough without specialized equipment. You have to trust the vendor. 

impromptuonedykedanceparty:

Like me, you may have seen some posts in the last couple weeks that said Tumblr was implementing a new chat feature, that showed a little green circle in tumblr messaging when someone’s online recently. Just like FB messenger has.

Like me, you might also have been confused by the posts, due to never actually seeing the feature in action or seeing an option to disable it.

BUT IT’S NOW LIVE. IT IS ON BY DEFAULT.

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If you’d prefer to turn it off, you can do so in settings:

See the option below:

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This is what it looks like in action. In the messenger dropdown:

and in an open messenger:

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Please feel free to spread this widely. That includes reposting without credit, which I encourage anyone to do if you were gonna reblog but don’t recognize the “OP.”

On Android Mobile I found it by clicking the gear symbol->‘general settings’->'privacy’.

pragnificent:

Please never use the term/tag “body horror” (or any variation thereof) to refer to the bodies of disabled people. 

Disabled people’s bodies aren’t horrifying and to frame them in that manner is dehumanizing and harmful. 

This includes fictional characters. 

The “body horror” tag should be reserved for gore, supernatural violations of the body, and similar things. 

It should absolutely never be used for people (again, even characters) who are amputees, who have scars or burns, facial deformities, atypically proportioned bodies, or any other sort of disability that causes them to look or move in a way that is “unusual.“ 

Disabled people’s bodies are not horrifying. 

Thank you for listening. 

selfcareafterrape:

selfcareafterrape:

I survived an abusive relationship. At this point I have talked to and worked with hundreds of people in abusive relationships.

Guess what? telling us to leave never works.

ever.

I could write a post about ways to help people leave.

I’ll probably do that one day.

but don’t be that person in the mean time.

This is real quick off the cuff but:

AN ABBREVIATED GUIDE TO ‘holy shit my friend is in an abusive relationshit what do I do’

1. Don’t start shit with the abuser. Your friend? Will pay for it.

I once had a friend slap my abuser.

I am not going to tell you the price I paid b/c I’ve already puked once today and I would like to not do it again.

I once threatened a friend’s abuser.

I almost lost that friend over it.

Don’t do the thing.

2.  Understand that the abuser is going to be isolating them.

They may be telling your friend how terrible you are. Any slight- no matter how small will be played up into a big thing. and even if the friend doesn’t hold it against you- it will probably effect how much they reach out to you.

Abusers like to tell their marks things like ‘Oh? A missed your call. Its because they hate you and think you complain too much’

The best way I can tell you to combat that- is just… don’t hold it against them. If they withdraw, don’t be that person like ‘well if you really cared about me you’d have fought for me’ 

The people who helped the most were those that I felt like.. I could go weeks without talking to and then they’d still listen if I got the courage to come back around. 

If you can- work with them to try and schedule things so that they can have support without their abuser getting suspicious. School projects, open places. shit like that.

3. Don’t argue with them that shit is abusive.

Don’t be that person. It will make them feel unsafe with you.

The friends who argued were friends I lost. They were the ones it was easiest for him to make go. Cause here’s the thing… people view isolating as an abuser saying ‘you can’t talk to them!’ and a lot of times its not that.. its an abuser sitting down and saying in a real quiet voice ‘you two argue a lot, and they aren’t respecting you. But I’ll always be here for you okay?’  

The most you can do is say “hey.. you know you deserve better than that right?” and if they argue go “I’m not going to argue with you. I don’t want to upset you. 

4. If they ask for resources, help them get them.

Don’t offer them unless asked or it will turn into a fight and see above.

5. If they say they’re out of options- help them brain storm ones.

here’s an easy opening to ask if it’s okay to help them find resources.

don’t shove.

6. Be nice to them. consistently.

Too many people were too busy trying to convince me that he was a bad guy- that spending time with them just hurt…

and at least when I was with him it only hurt some of the time.

I got out because I had 4-5 good friends who I had good times with and I finally…. there was the light of ‘oh god this is what healthy relationships feel like. ‘

7. Don’t shove. Don’t pressure.

You can say “I’ll be here for you when you’re ready to leave”

You can remind them of this occasionally.

But don’t be a coercive dick.

Don’t be gross.

Don’t hurt people being abused.

That should not be that hard of a lesson.

Don’t say victim blaming shit to convince them to leave.,

Don’t threaten to leave them if they don’t leave.

Don’t be gross.

stylishirish:

stylishirish:

the new snapchat update lets any of your snapchat friends see where you are on a map!!! apart from being really creepy,, this is unsafe especially if you don’t want people you’re snapchat friends with knowing where you are down to the EXACT location (ppl dealing w/ abusive ex’s, sex workers, etc)

I can see myself in my kitchen and my friend at work on the map its v accurate make sure you set your status to ghost mode

I should probably add how to go ghost

1. Update snapchat
2. Go to the stories page and zoom out (as if you were zooming out on a map) and itll open the map
3. Tap on yourself
4. Go to the upper right settings and turn on ghost mode