transguysuggestions:

You’re not less of a boy for liking to wear skirts
You’re not less of a boy for wanting to wear makeup
You’re not less of a boy for knitting or sewing
You’re not less of a boy for expressing “softer” emotions
You’re not less of a boy for wanting to feel pretty.

Boys come in all different types. It’s okay to be a soft boy, a pretty boy, a femininely dressed boy. You’re still a boy. The only thing that determines how much of a boy you are is how YOU define your boyhood. And no one, nothing in the world, can take that away from you.

vilevilescorpio:

biiigwinged:

anarchistmemecollective:

thatdykepunkslut:

depsidase:

It’s not “everyone” acting like it’s normal. The majority of people know something’s wrong they just don’t have the tools to fix it. Maybe a plurality don’t know that the problem is capitalism, they blame it on something else, but they’re still aware there’s a problem. “Everyone” is just too exhausted from working 4 jobs, 50 hours a week to scream into the void in their spare time.

ALT

And also… it’s okay to not constantly be obsessing and fuming and angry about the things you can’t fix. People who are living their lives, enjoying what they can, and not being angry all the time aren’t necessarily giving up or burying their heads in the sand. They’re waiting for their chance and keeping themselves as healthy and as ready as they can be.

Things will get better or get worse but you’re in it until you die. Pick your battles so that when something falls in your lap that is in your power to change you won’t be too exhausted from unproductive anger to be able to do anything about it.

sheergeekypanic:

sheergeekypanic:

There’s this thing people do where they get very, very concerned about their fave(s) either in their personal relationships or in their careers (or both) when something doesn’t line up entirely with their perception of them. This can sometimes be legitimate, of course, but often there’s a near-hysteric state of doom-ism that comes from spiralling down into a scenario where the fan, specifically, loses the stream of content and in turn the enjoyment and community, and sometimes the ‘win’ that comes from this continued content.

You see this a lot when actors suggest retirement or a show ending or someone just perceives them as having a not-great day. “I’m so worried, what are they doing, their friends/spouses are evil -” etc.

All entertainers are people. People with rich internal and private lives and they are allowed to retire early, or take projects they want vs what would net them the most publicity, or whatever else.

It’s fine to feel sad about this when something ends, it’s natural! But if you find yourself constantly thrown into these what-if spirals by any little thing you need to step back and examine how closely you’re tying this perception of your faves to your own happiness - and if it’s even making you happy at all anymore. Something you enjoy should not stress you out to the point of depression and tears.

Edit: TLDR Thesis statement here is I you need to take these trigger points, step back, and realise when something has stopped actually being about your fave and has turned into using them almost as an avatar for your own happiness.

#this#generally I think people need to realize that you having a reaction to smth does not necessarily mean#that the something/someone is Responsible for your feelings#other people have their inner lives and their complexities and their relationships and jobs#and what they do is not About Us#they are as real as we are#and we’re doing them AND ourselves a disservice when we forget that

(via @ironworked)

Exactly - the dehumanization through idolatry and/or infantilization does nobody any favours and at its worst actively causes problems for everyone involved.

We’ve all indulged in this to some extent but people need to realise it’s a wholly selfish act. We all want our faves to be happy and successful but there is nothing noble or helpful about hurting yourself and/or others under this guise.

sigynpenniman:

REMINDER THAT IT IS APRIL FOOL’S DAY. Trust no bullshit you see on the internet today. My blog is a safe space and I will not be engaging! Nothing but business as usual round here🩷🩵

ailithnight:

cluegrrl:

sandersstudies:

i-have-n0-idea-what-im-d0ing:

sandersstudies:

You CANNOT serve from an empty vessel but go off I guess

OP what does this mean?

When your friends are hungry, you cannot serve them from an empty breadbasket, no matter how good your intentions. When they’re thirsty, you cannot serve them from an empty pitcher, no matter the effort you put in.

We have to stock ourselves with good things before we are able to give them away, and if we are too exhausted to make bread, we must rest before we can make it to serve our friends. If we are too hungry to serve, we must eat some bread ourselves first.

It’s a metaphor for emotional exhaustion. When we wear ourselves down it makes it difficult or impossible to help the people around us, and all the effort and good intentions in the world can’t make up for the fact that our vessels are empty. It’s hard to not want to serve when our friends are in trouble, but trying to serve from an empty vessel often leaves both of you floundering.

On the contrary, when we care for ourselves and are kind to our body and mind, we are full vessels, and serving the people around us becomes easier. That’s why it’s important to take time for ourselves once in a while, to refill ourselves with good things.

In the event of a sudden pressure change, put on your own oxygen mask before helping a companion with theirs if needed.

I have never seen this concept so perfectly and eloquently articulated.

You cannot serve from an empty vessel.

friend-crow:

They/them are not catch-all pronouns for all trans people.

If the person in question uses other pronouns, you are still misgendering them.

They/them is for
A. people whose genders you do not yet know
B. hypothetical people
C. people who actually choose to use they/them pronouns

m0untaing0ats:

People on the internet treat autism like it’s some cute, childish thing, but like, autism and the trauma that comes with it have literally lead me to severe alcoholism, anger issues and a criminal record.

This post goes out to autistic addicts and autistic people who have personality disorders and autistic people who have hurt people during meltdowns and autistic people who have been in trouble with the law and autistic people who have been diagnosed with every mental illness under the sun only to find out it was autism all along.

You are loved. Your trauma and your reactions to it do not make you a bad person.

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From my book: I Have to Tell You Something 🤍 available on amazon internationally

shadow-pancake9:

Daily reminder to go drink some water and take a nap! Also make sure to eat a tasty snack and sharpen your sword collection!!