genderpunks:

genderpunks:

trans girls arent required to be soft, frail, submissive, quiet, reserved, “well mannered”, “ladylike”, or motherly. trans girls can be tough, brash, loud, bold, butch, strange and lone wolves. trans girls can be whoever they are, as they are. there is no one way to be a girl

that being said, trans girls who are those things are wonderful. there are many ways to be a woman, there’s no right or wrong way. thats the point! we love you no matter what type of girl you are, don’t feel like you have to be any type of way

enbyzombies:

enbyzombies:

actually wait I wanna make this post. it is true that society shames all sexual activity (especially the sexual activity of queer and/or fat people) and it is also true that society expects a certain level of sexual “normalcy” (heterosexual monogamous sex for procreation and intimacy purposes). these are both true and in fact. part of the exact same problem.

the idea that oppression has never contradicted itself is a bold faced lie. nothing is ever simple. there’s always a loophole or crossover or whatever. it doesn’t have to make sense, it just has to hold certain groups of people down

play-now-my-lord:

pietroleopoldo:

Look i joke a lot about not trusting people who don’t like modern art, but in all seriousness no matter what you think of it, if someone earnestly calls a piece of modern art “degenerate”, run

“that’s not art” is parochial boorishness, “that’s not real art” is misguided and reactionary snobbery, “that’s degenerate” is straight up fascist, hope this helps

bitegore:

boazpriestly:

[id: A tweet thread by Nathan Howe @ nathehowe that reads:

“Several years ago, a neighbor kid kicked a football and shattered a small basement window. We were a family of six living on a teacher’s salary at the time, so I boarded it up, thinking I’d get to it someday. The frame was rusted shut. I couldn’t fix it.

Over the years, I’d sometimes get estimates from window companies. Of course, the plan was to upgrade to energy-efficient windows for the whole house. $15,000. It was simply out of reach. In the meantime, the boarded window let in bugs but not light.

One contractor explained that the location of the window, with the frame embedded in the foundation, meant that whoever replaced it would need to chisel it out by hand, a labor-intensive and expensive process. And there were six of those windows in the house.

Honestly, the thought of that window ate at me for years. Every time I went down there, every time I went to the hardwere store, it nagged at me. I knew I needed to address it, but I had built up the process (and the price)so much in my mind that I was paralyzed.

Then my wife had a job change, and we needed to move. I knew that a potential buyer couldn’t get an FHA loan in the property if there was a broken window. so I pulled off the boards and cardboard to face this thing head-on. It had been at least five years.

I thought, "What the heck. I’m gonna have to pay for it anyway.” I grabbed some WD-RO, sprayed it around the rusted frame, and gave it a tug. To my astonishment, it moved for the first time in decades. I pulled the window out and took it downtown. It was a $12 fix.

I could have fixed the problem for $12 the same day it happened. But I let it haunt me for years, shutting out light and letting in bugs. And I finally fixed it for somebody else when the house was empty. It didn’t need to be the most efficient. It just needed to be a window.

Ok, this isn’t really about my window. I mean, the story is true. But it’s also a decent parable. Many of us, especially those with ADHD, anxiety or depression, tend to live with broken windows of one type or another for years.

Everyobody’s broken windows are different. They are things that seriously affect our quality of life, and we know they need work, but the actions to address them seem too daunting. I’ve still got plenty of them myself. If you recognize yours, a few things to know:

- An imperfect solution now is better than a perfect solution that will never happen.
- Doing the thing is often less painful than thinking about doing the thing.
- Acknowledging how the problem is affecting you can reduce its power over you.
- Don’t blame yourself for dwelling on your broken windows. Just enjoy the light when you fix one.
- There are some windows you can’t fix by yourself. Find the right help for the right window.
- You don’t have to fix it all now. Just start by starting.“

end id]

crippledpunks:

winter months can aggravate many health conditions including arthritis, joint disorders including hypermobile joints, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue/ME, depression and other conditions. please be patient with disabled people during the winter. ambient cold temperatures and low exposure to natural sunlight can cause all sorts of issues, including severe pain

katekanemybeloved:

Just a reminder to anyone who will listen! There’s a huge cold front coming up in America right now and I want to remind everyone to NEVER use or rely on a gas stove to heat up your home. You will die. If your power goes out, the best thing you can do is cover your windows, or get to an area in your house with no windows, and bundle up to the best of your ability to conserve heat. I know generating heat with whatever you have sounds good in theory, but we lost a LOT of people to carbon monoxide poisoning in last years Texas Freeze because many relied on gas stoves and other propane heat sources. A lot of people went to bed and never woke up. Please be aware of the things you can’t see, like fumes from your generator, built up gas when starting a car in an enclosed space, and of course, the excess carbon monoxide that can be generated by leaving a gas stove on for too long.

tanukidyke:

I wish I could blaze a post telling people to test their smoke alarms but I have literally no money so if y’all could help me spread this the old fashioned way

Test your smoke alarms and carbon monoxide detectors

bifrosted-flakes:

ailithnight:

cluegrrl:

sandersstudies:

i-have-n0-idea-what-im-d0ing:

sandersstudies:

You CANNOT serve from an empty vessel but go off I guess

OP what does this mean?

When your friends are hungry, you cannot serve them from an empty breadbasket, no matter how good your intentions. When they’re thirsty, you cannot serve them from an empty pitcher, no matter the effort you put in.

We have to stock ourselves with good things before we are able to give them away, and if we are too exhausted to make bread, we must rest before we can make it to serve our friends. If we are too hungry to serve, we must eat some bread ourselves first.

It’s a metaphor for emotional exhaustion. When we wear ourselves down it makes it difficult or impossible to help the people around us, and all the effort and good intentions in the world can’t make up for the fact that our vessels are empty. It’s hard to not want to serve when our friends are in trouble, but trying to serve from an empty vessel often leaves both of you floundering.

On the contrary, when we care for ourselves and are kind to our body and mind, we are full vessels, and serving the people around us becomes easier. That’s why it’s important to take time for ourselves once in a while, to refill ourselves with good things.

In the event of a sudden pressure change, put on your own oxygen mask before helping a companion with theirs if needed.

I have never seen this concept so perfectly and eloquently articulated.

You cannot serve from an empty vessel.

@transgender-rex

tiktoksthataregood-ish:

genderkoolaid:

genderkoolaid:

btw there is nothing morally superior about not having drugs in your body. having drugs in your body does not make you “impure” or “tainted”. whether you take meds to treat mental illness or a physical disability, or you take hormones, or you do recreational drugs, you are not a worse person for that. the idea that humans should stay perfectly unchanged and that anything we do to alter our bodies is inherently morally unacceptable is bullshit. you are not a better person just because you do not use any drugs, and people who do use drugs (for whatever reason) are not worse people because of that.

#honest tae god thought this was about weed for a second and then realized it was about medication

I mean this very much is about weed. Like its also about medication but I specifically put “recreational drugs” on there for a reason. This post is about weed and alcohol and literally every drug. I made this post largely for former and current drug users and addicts.