unicorn-and-bluebells:

jupitermelichios:

hockeyblogvanessa:

moistyaoi:

do you ever think really awful thoughts and suddenly become aware that you are not a good person

always

i could give you my rant on how being raised in a world dominated by orthodox (i.e. morality is based on thinking the right things rather than doing the right things) religions fucks with your head, but i’ll keep it short

- if you have a dark thought that you find actively distressing, how can that thought be reflective of your basic morality? intrusive thoughts are distressing precicely because they go against your moral core. everyone has them sometimes and some mental illnesses come with a lot more of them, and they suck but they don’t make you a bad person

- if you have a dark thought that you don’t find distressing, but you choose not to act on it because you know it would hurt yourself or others, how can that thought be reflective of your basic morality when you’re making the moral choice not to act on it? that choice is what defines you, not the thought

- if you have a dark thought that you choose to act on, but realise later that it hurt someone and you don’t want to be someone who hurts people, how can that thought be reflective of your basic morality? you know you fucked up and you’re trying to do better, and that’s what defines you; not the thought, and not your past

everyone has dark impulses sometimes, both concious and unconcious, if that’s our rubrick for what makes a good person we might as well throw out the entire human race. what defines a person is what they choose to do with those impulses, and, and this is the big one, whether they’re trying to be better today than they were yesterday.

THIS

It took me a long time to realise, but like. If I think something and then go “EW NO WTF” At my thought. Chances are that the first thought is not a good reflection of my morality and who I am as a person

orcboxer:

orcboxer:

Hot take but praise is a good tool for encouraging healthy behavior. Positive reinforcement is good. Relying exclusively on punishment to change people’s behavior is both cruel and ineffective. If someone does better than they did yesterday, let them know you appreciate it, let them know that they’re improving!

“Don’t praise anyone for doing the bare minimum” is a shitty take that prioritizes your sense of superiority over the actual betterment of people. I understand that things shouldn’t be as bad as they are, and anger can often be justified, but you need to get over the propaganda that kindness is naïve, that cynicism and bitterness are intellectual. Withholding praise from those who haven’t caught up with you doesnt actually help them, it doesn’t motivate, it doesn’t encourage, it only discourages them. It breeds bitterness and apathy, which are antithetical to empathy.

Growth isn’t something you do on your own. People need support, they need community. Bootstraps won’t get them there. Kindness will. Do you want results or do you just want to feel superior?

unicorn-and-bluebells:

callmekate08:

mintywhisker:

a while back i read a post along the lines of “if you feel like everyone hates you, it’s time to rest… if you feel like you hate everyone else, it’s time to eat” and honest to god i’ve never used any piece of advice more than i have that one

I always add on “if you feel like you hate yourself, it’s time to take a shower” to turn it into a trifecta.

Seriously one of my great mottos is “Do my friends hate me or do I just need to go to sleep.” When you feel like shit you gotta take care of basic needs first, and sometimes that makes everything feel a bit better

tropesarenotbad:

spiffybug:

bodhimcbodeface:

I need a Thank u Mr Terry tag

#thank you mr terry#thinking something isn’t doing it and doing is all people see#and deep down it means that when the ugly thought reared its head to be realized#you stood up in front of that ugly hurtful thought and said ‘sit down’

Pardon me, but I needed to read your tags tonight.

[image description: a photo of a Terry Pratchett book, and a dialogue exchange in the book.

“You’d have done the same,” said Lily.

“No,” said Granny. “I’d have thought the same, but I wouldn’t have done it.”

“What difference does that make, deep down?”

“You mean you don’t know?” said Nanny Ogg.

/end image description]

friendlyneighbourhoodpapergay:

Yet another reminder that faking is a conscious choice that you make.

It is not something you can do accidentally, regards of what you’re talking about.

You can’t accidentally fake depression, or anxiety, or bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia, or any other mental illness.

You can’t accidentally fake Borderline Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, personality disorders.

You can’t accidentally fake ADHD, autism, Tourette’s Syndrome, auditory processing disorder, aphasia or any other neurodivergence

You can’t accidentally fake being trans or ace-spec or aro-spec or any other LGBTQIA+ identity.

You can’t accidentally fake chronic illnesses like CFS, fibromyalgia or any chronic illness.

You also can’t accidentally fake being good/intelligent at something. You didn’t fool your peers into reaching your position.

You can’t accidentally fake trauma, PTSD/cPTSD, DID/OSDD/DDNOS or any other trauma-based disorder.

Tldr:

Faking is a conscious choice.

You cannot do it by accident.

If you are worried that you are faking, that in itself is proof that you are not.

randomslasher:

randomslasher:

No matter what a post on tumblr tries to tell you, your moral and ethical stances will never be determined by what you reblog and what you scroll past. Don’t let manipulation tactics force you into doing anything you don’t want to do.

I find it very interesting to note the times in which this post has a sudden resurgence. It often follows very stressful, upsetting events, where a lot of “REBLOG THIS OR YOU SUCK” posts start appearing on this site. 

So I’ll say it again: it is okay if you come to tumblr to escape upsetting news. It is okay if you’re just here for fun and fandom. It is okay if you do not want to use your tumblr as a place to read about or spread the current events that are circulating. It is okay if you need a place to decompress and just relax. There are other ways to be involved in/support causes and you are allowed to set boundaries on social media platforms without it being indicative of your belief systems. 

Your beliefs, values, ethics, and moral stances are not determined by whether or not you reblog something. 

animatedartist:

maybecowboycore:

maybecowboycore:

Hey, gay working class and gay rural interests, aesthetics, and culture belong within the wider LGBT+ community. Country music belongs in gay spaces. Camo and trucker caps and work boots belong in gay spaces. Trucks and doorless jeeps and shitty old beaters belong in gay spaces. GEDs and high school educations and blue collar jobs belong in gay spaces. Being broke and looking like shit belongs in gay spaces. The community isn’t owned by the wealthiest San Fransisco and New York gay-geoisie. Their interests, appearances, and beliefs do not define queerness. 

Me: It’s important to remember to be inclusive of gay people from rural backgrounds.

Parts of Tumblr.com: I have literally never heard of classism and thus have no frame of reference for the idea that I should be nice to people with stereotypically low class interests and so I will make fun of those interests now. 

Me: Ah so I see I have overshot where y’all are at

Everyone in the notes: Yas! I love farms! Love them chickens, farm core is my life!

Bitch we all know you like farm asthetique. What we want is support for the Actual rural southern queer community. The trailer park/pre-used prefab queers. The ones who are never going to get more than a 10th grade education and work dirty blue collar jobs with hard labor. And remember that this whole ass time we often have to lie about who we are so we can keep the shitty hard labor jobs that fuck up our bodies. And remember that these communities are also black and Hispanic communities?? I see y'all in the notes “this is so white, this is so white” like the entire South isn’t full of poc and queer poc who struggle even harder because of all this??

Broke: everyone in the rural south is white homophobic racists

Woke: the rural south has large populations of queer poc who get no support and no acknowledgement within broader queer culture past the “gay cowboy” asthetic