Icon from a picrew by grgikau. Call me Tir or Julian. 37. He/They. Queer. Twitter: @tirlaeyn. ao3: tirlaeyn. 18+ Only. Star Trek. Sandman. IwtV. OMFD. Definitionless in this Strict Atmosphere.
Hurriyet Daily News reports that Albayrak had been hired to photograph the July 5th wedding at Turgut Özal Nature Park in the eastern Turkish province of Malatya. On the day of, when he noticed that the bride-to-be didn’t look like an adult, he asked the groom her age and learned that she was only 15.
“The groom had come to my studio some two weeks ago and was alone,” Albayrak tells the Daily News. “I saw the bride for the first time at the wedding. She’s a child, and I felt her fear because she was trembling.”
Albayrak then reportedly refused to continue as the wedding photographer and attempted to stop the wedding.
The argument soon turned physical when the groom attacked him as he was attempting to leave, Albayrak says. The photographer ended up breaking the client’s nose in the fight, according to local reports.
Albayrak confirmed the reports in a Facebook post, which has been met with widespread approval, attracting thousands of Likes and hundreds of overwhelmingly positive comments.
“I wish this had never happened, but it did,” Albayrak writes. “And if you were to ask me if I’d do the same thing again, I’d say ‘yes.’ Child brides are [victims] of child abuse and no power on earth can make me photograph a child in a wedding gown.”
The legal minimum age for marriage in Turkey is 18-years-old for both sexes, and child marriage is punishable by imprisonment for men who marry underage girls. Despite being outlawed, however, child marriage is still prevalent in the country and remains a controversial political issue.
btw - let’s remind ourselves, americans, that unlike turkey, in the US the legal minimum age for marriage is only 18 in two states. in alabama, you can be married as young as fourteen years old if you have “parental permission”. in california, you can get married under 18 if you go to counseling, have a parent with you when you apply for the marriage license, and appear before a judge. in some states, there isn’t even a specific minimum age for marriage.
the minimum marriage age for girls in new hampshire is 13 years old.
child marriage is not an “over there” problem, it happens right here, legally. any one of us might find ourselves called upon to break somebody’s nose if we encounter something like this occurring. we also have a responsibility to support groups and laws trying to end child marriage in this country.
LGBT activists have been vocal about intersex issues for several decades, because establishing the legal right to bodily autonomy for intersex persons is basically inseparable from establishing the right of trans persons to that same legal autonomy over their own bodies. many intersex persons prefer not to be grouped together with LGBT causes; however, the vast majority of LGBT activists would agree that performing “corrective” surgery on intersex infants - to force them to adhere to a largely fictional gender binary - is pretty fucking evil.
There’s a lot of bullshit around the gender binary and the “basic biology” arguement that breaks down the second you look in any college-level textbook. The amount of people born intersex clocks in at 1.7% of the world’s population and people try to pretend it doesn’t exist because of that low percentage. However, following that logic, they must also believe that people born with naturally red hair, 2% of the world’s population, must also be fictitious. Except that clearly isn’t the case. One hundred and thirty-two MILLION people are born intersex and the vast majority of them have their bodily autonomy ripped away. That shit has to stop.
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Siddig did say at a 1994 panel that the writers did have an “abuse situation” in mind when it came to Bashir’s parents in the early seasons.
Yeah, that makes SO MUCH sense! I would guess more emotional/verbal than physical just because of the way:
He presents himself, especially early on, like he needs to constantly remind the people around him that he offers value to the station (almost as if he was told very often that he DIDN’T offer very much)
The way he completely resents dictatorial authority figures and often responds to them with sarcasm
The way he kind of highlights his own failures- who would ever ask or care that he got one question wrong on an exam? We only know that because he insists on telling us the things he’s done wrong
I almost wish they had kept the original plotline, because I think it would have been interesting to have a different version of the Bashirs come to the station and they’re just openly dismissive/unimpressed/disapproving of the work he does because I think that actually makes his character make more sense in general. I think the Augment arc works- and it is a type of abuse. After all, they changed him fundamentally because he didn’t meet their standards. But it would have been interesting to see it played less fantastically and more rooted in reality.
these are my Early Evening thoughts but imo it would’ve been great to have both
like they augmented juli b because he didn’t meet their standards… but then after the augmentation he still didn’t meet their standards, which is where the emotional abuse came in. like they tried to cut out the autism but it came back for revenge now equipped with a swiss army knife
and they can’t talk about the augmentation and they can’t tell juli b that he was/is disabled, so they pile on the pressure for him to do well, he’s an augment so everything he does he can do better, everything he makes and shows them can and should be criticised, and gods help him if he even thinks about slacking off, they spent money on him don’t be ungrateful, and juli b has to drive himself through a brick wall to achieve and still he’s criticised and made to be worthless
(i hc that juli b knew he was different and self-dxed as autistic as a teen, and when his parents found out that was the blowout argument where juli b found out he was augmented because “we didn’t spend all that money for you to want to be Like That”)
i work for an exam board irl, and i worked a complaint where someone’s parents being insistent on their child resitting their exam even though they didn’t want to, because the kid scored in the top ten candidates but didn’t score the highest. when we said no, they found the telephone number of the exam board’s chief and screamed at them to let the kid sit the test again.
and I can just imagine juli b’s parents pulling something like that when he’s in school, and it’s the most humiliating ordeal for juli b
I wanted to bring out something I’ve thought about a lot. That many of the DS9 characters share in having abnormal childhoods; hardships they had to deal with and endure. And in the end, I wish they had come to a better understanding of each other, because they had more in common than they thought.
I super, super love this. I …just have one question. How come you drew Worf with a Klingon adult? He was adopted & raised by two humans in Russia.
Because Worf was originally with his biological parents when they were killed, and he survived the attack. Hence the reason he was adopted by humans later on ^^
And thank you for the compliment!^^
I will always reblog this because it is awesome and heartbreaking.
Elim absolutely used to daydream about running away to the rainforest as a kid. He didn’t get much actual free time outside, so his knowledge might have been sketchy? But he just filled in the gaps with his imagination. Practiced weaving facts with fiction into an attractive tapestry. Maybe he tried to describe it to Mila, but maybe he never wanted to tell anyone. He kept himself occupied with this world until he got old enough and his hands got bloody enough that it didn’t work anymore. He resolved to at least never lie to himself.
He rediscovers this after “The Wire”. It helps for a while. Until the internment camp, until the circuits in the walls, until Tain dies.
I have this thought about “Afterimage” when he tells Ezri that he wasn’t trapped in the closet as a child, because Tain would eventually let him out. But now Tain is dead. And there’s no one to let him out anymore. I think that is fucking with him along with the guilt.
