I’m bisexual and I support marriage equality because I shouldn’t be forced to choose between a love that’s celebrated and a love that’s invalid in the eyes of the courts.
Do the right thing, SCOTUS. Vote for marriage equality so I can choose happiness, regardless of who I love.
“biphobia isn’t real”
yeah sorry I couldn’t hear you over the hour long rant my friends mom once delivered about how she really supported gay rights but couldn’t stand bi people while i sat in the backseat of her car nearly in tears because the parent of someone I loved was throwing hate speech at me.
yeah I can’t hear you over the minimal representation I receive in television which is usually just a sassy assistant making a remark about her “lesbian phase” and how in one of the most progressive queer shows that’s ever received critical acclaim the words ‘bi or pan’ are never used once.
yeah I can’t hear you over my ex calling me a slut after finding out I was bi and saying all I am is an indecisive whore.
i can’t fucking hear you over mono queer people mocking me and jeering at my desire for representation, calling me ‘not queer enough’, and ‘laughing hollowly’ over my attempts to explain my struggles as a bisexual woman.
yeah im sorry i can’t hear you over my friends long rant about how she didn’t think she could keep dating her bi boyfriend because he would probably cheat on her, and her eye rolls when i told her what she was saying was offensive.
sorry i couldn’t hear you over how fucking wrong and ignorant you are.
#sorry can’t hear you over the constant interrogation of my sexual history
Trying to prove a point to someone who says “it’s just a phase, your mind is made up after high school”
Bisexuality isn’t a legimate sexuality though, it was invented by the CIA in the late 1980s in order to distract the general public from the wizard uprising.
O.O
YOU KNOW FAR TOO MUCH
How did they find out?
Who told them damn it
Manslation: There are no sofabeds. Once a sofabed is collapsed or extended, it is only a sofa or only a bed. Calling it a sofabed—regardless of the fact that it always retains its ability to be either a sofa or a bed, regardless of how it’s currently deployed—is just lying to yourself, or just begging for attention. By the way, will you sign my petition to have the title of this movie changed to An American Human Being or Wolf but Definitely Only Ever One of Those at a Time in London?
AN AMERICAN HUMAN BEING OR WOLF BUT DEFINITELY ONLY EVER ONE OF THOSE AT A TIME IN LONDON
I love Manslator’s response.
As for the… ahem… person initiating the ask up there. Personally, BEING bisexual AND married, I didn’t stop finding males and females sexually attractive just because I married one of the two (yes, I know there are many gender expressions beyond merely binary, but I’m simplifying for this instance). I didn’t stop having thoughts and emotions and opinions because I happened to meet someone who suited me wonderfully as a life partner, because that someone happened to have a single gender. It was the PERSON I fell in love with - they could have been male OR female and I’d’ve still fallen in love with them because I’m attracted to both; because I am bisexual, regardless of what some clueless twits with opinions larger than their personal experience happen to think.
Manslation: There are no sofabeds. Once a sofabed is collapsed or extended, it is only a sofa or only a bed. Calling it a sofabed—regardless of the fact that always retains its ability to be either a sofa or a bed, regardless of how it’s currently deployed—is just lying to yourself, or just begging for attention. By the way, will you sign my petition to have the title of this movie changed to An American Human Being or Wolf but Definitely Only Ever One of Those at a Time in London?
Schooled Larry King.
ARE YOU A PRACTICING BISEXUAL I FUCKING SNORTED
People can be such idiots.
Here’s the thing about Bisexual Howard Stark:
This is not a slam dunk for bisexual representation. Absolutely not. In our climate of overwhelming heteronormativity and blatant bisexual erasure, nothing short of the B word itself really CAN be. That much is fact.
The simple fact is that nothing short of the B word it self is TRULY indisputable representation. Obstinate heteronormativity and biphobia will give leverage for people to deny the blatantly obvious and narratively clear.
And that’s very sad.
Because Agent Carter gave us some pretty damn clear narrative parallels here. No one denies that Peggy’s love for Steve is romantic. No one denies that Howard has romantic interest in women. Both Peggy and Howard draw direct, clear, and deliberate parallels between Peggy’s love for Steve and Howard’s love for Steve. In a culture and climate that was truly open and equal, Howard’s bisexuality would be accepted without question (except, maybe, with the caveat of perhaps pansexuality.)
I will argue night and day that Bisexual Howard Stark is canon. If this were two women talking about their shared love for one man, there would be no question. If this were two men talking about their shared love for one woman, there would be no question. If these scenes played out in a way that maintained heteronormativity, it would be no question.
Despite the problems with Agent Carter, I do hope it will get a second season. I hope that second season will see major PoC characters, and I hope it will see explicit and undeniable confirmation of Bisexual Howard Stark.
#IF THESE SCENES PLAYED OUT IN A WAY THAT MAINTAINED HETERONORMATIVITY IT WOULD BE NO QUESTION#WHOA THAT’S SUCH A GOOD POINT #GOD I’M UNDERSTANDING SO MUCH RIGHT NOW #SO MUCH #LIKE #IF HOWARD WENT ‘I HAVE NEVER TOLD A LIVING SOUL BUT I …….. LOVED STEVE ROGERS’ THEY WOULD’VE TAKEN THE AUDIENCE’S HETERONORMATIVITY IN ACCOUNT #AND THE WORST PART ABOUT IT IS THAT I WASN’T BUYING IT #I TOTALLY WASN’T BUYING BISEXUAL HOWARD STARK PRECISELY B/C THEY DIDN’T PLAY INTO THE HETERONORMATIVE DRAMA OF A COMING OUT #GOD MY EYES HAVE BEEN OPENED #AGENT CARTER #AGENT CARTER SPOILERS
I keep thinking about these tags, because I think they make a REALLY good point that I sort of….alluded to, but didn’t really get to all the way.
Part of what makes Howard’s representation of a bisexual man so challenging to heteronormativity if we accept that this is what he is, is that we must accept him as simply open and out without label or announcement. Howard does not “come out” in these moments. Howard is not “in the closet” in these moments. Both Howard and Peggy seem fully aware and accepting of Howard’s feelings without reservation or scandal.
In fact, Howard’s love for Steve is treated SO equally to Peggy’s that, within a society imbued with Heteronormativity, it feels misplaced. We EXPECT Howard to feel shame for his feelings, when the only shame he feels is for failing Steve, not for loving him.
Being “in the closet” is a function of heteronormativity. Coming out if a function of heteronormativity. Agent Carter simply ignores Heteronormativity completely, which makes viewers who do have to deal with heteronormativity have to struggle more to recognize true queerness in its absence.
#Howard’s love for Steve is never presented as anything other than parallel and equal to Peggy’s#but what terrifies me is that not only are viewers heteronormative and therefore unlikely to accept this at face value the way they SHOULD#but also Marvel is just shitty enough to deny it (tags via hauntedjaeger)
they really fucking are
I think the saddest thing honestly is that if Howard was shown as being SAD of ASHAMED of his FEELINGS for Steve, people would find this interpretation of his feelings as romantic as more believable. If Howard were ashamed and miserable because of his love for Steve, instead of comfortable with those feelings, people would find a bisexual non-heteronormative interpretation more compelling.
“I’ve never told anyone this Peggy…..” “I never wanted anyone to know but…..” “Can you believe what the papers would say…” with tears in his eyes? “ But I felt the same way -I loved him too!” with hands clenched. If he seemed torn up and in pain about his feelings, would the romance seem more compelling?
But instead, his only guilt is over FAILING Steve. He is perfectly comfortable in LOVING Steve. He says it so easily- “I know how much he means to me.” And Peggy reciprocates that sentiment without hesitation. “You loved him. I loved him too.” There is no angst over the closet, no self loathing over it. Which makes people doubt that it is romantic.
And in a heteronormative society, LGBTQIAP+ people are SUPPOSE to hate ourselves and hate our feelings. And if we DON’T feel ASHAMED of our feelings, are really real? If Howard Stark doesn’t feel ASHAMED of loving Steve Rogers? Can that love REALLY be romantic? If Howard Stark doesn’t HATE HIMSELF ENOUGH for being queer, then maybe he can’t be queer at all.
If we love ourselves, then we are delegitimized. That’s what heteronormativity does to us.
shit you guys have stirred a lot of conflicting thoughts in my head
one of them, dare i say it, is that i know that today, in the 21st century, a lot of my male friends have had a lot of trouble being called gay (not necessarily as an insult) or bisexual — which, whether or not it’s the case, can make them feel kinda uncomfortable — just because they have a very comfortable friendship with their male friends. I’m not saying you’re all wrong. you can interpret it however you choose, but please be wary of what message you’re sending out to all men about how they are allowed to feel and act around friends.
Oh god. Won’t somebody think of the straight people?
-heavy sigh- Straight people are so fucking worried about maintaining heteronormativity that not only can you not allow queer people to be only queer without shame, but you police your own friendships to the point of absurdity.
It isn’t queer people’s fault that straight people feel emotionally constipated about their own friendships out of homophobic anxiety. That blame falls on heteronormativity too.
straight men being afraid of “seeming gay” when being intimate with one and other is an expression of homophobia because being gay is so repugnant to them they fear being taken as such
how is straight men’s homophobia our fault whatsoever? do not blame queer people for that
One common misconception people have about bisexual people is that the abbreviation “bi” is short for “bisexual”, when really it stands for “Black Island”, the place where all bisexual people are born and raised by pirates. All bisexual people are pirates. Run
did you mean
birates
it’s like all you gotta do is flip the p upside down
Well, it just shows how easy it is to go both ways.
If you put blue and red together it makes purple.
Purple is not referred to as half red half blue though because it is on its own a color.
The same applies to bisexuality.
and some shades are much more blue or much more red, but they’re still called purple
You can identify as bisexual even if you’ve only had sex with one gender.
You can identify as bisexual if you are only attracted to people who present traditionally “masculine” traits.
You can identify as bisexual if you are attracted to one gender substantially more than others.
You can identify as bisexual if you are attracted to two, three, seven, or all genders.
You can identify as bisexual if you are trans.
You can identify as bisexual if you are non-binary.
You can identify as bisexual if you also identify as pansexual.
You can be bisexual and homoromantic.
You can be bisexual and heteroromantic.
You can be bisexual and aromantic.
You can be biromantic and homosexual/heterosexual/asexual.
You can identify as bisexual if you feel that the term applies to you, and anyone who says otherwise can go fuck themselves.
