Icon by @ThatSpookyAgent. Call me Tir or Julian. 37. He/They. Queer. Twitter: @tirlaeyn. ao3: tirlaeyn. 18+ Only. Star Trek. The X-Files. Sandman. IwtV. OMFD. Definitionless in this Strict Atmosphere.
You’re not less of a boy for liking to wear skirts
You’re not less of a boy for wanting to wear makeup
You’re not less of a boy for knitting or sewing
You’re not less of a boy for expressing “softer” emotions
You’re not less of a boy for wanting to feel pretty.
Boys come in all different types. It’s okay to be a soft boy, a pretty boy, a femininely dressed boy. You’re still a boy. The only thing that determines how much of a boy you are is how YOU define your boyhood. And no one, nothing in the world, can take that away from you.
HAATEEEE hate actually. that overweight is considered a more pc nice term than fat. like i need the word fat to become destigmatized right now because im tired of people talking circles around trying to say chubby or big or plus size as catchalls because fat is a fine word. its fine. i know its been deemed derogatory by our culture but thats because being fat is deemed bad anyways but i think its a better word than calling people overweight like over what weight hm? what weight are you saying they are over. normal?? fuck you
shout out to people who’s family isnt entirely bad or entirely good, but something in between and you dont know how to feel about them. you feel angry but you also feel guilty, because you know they genuinely love and care about you, but sometimes they show it in a way you know its not okay. your feelings are valid, your anger and sadness and grief are valid, and you dont have to prove this to no one. bigger shout out to those with memory issues who know something isnt right but can’t recall all of the bad events, only the feelings, which only increases the guilt.
I feel like a good shorthand for a lot of economics arguments is “if you want people to work minimum wage jobs in your city, you need to allow minimum wage apartments for them to live in.”
“These jobs are just for teenagers on the weekends.” Okay, so you’ll use minimum wage services only on the weekends and after school. No McDonald’s or Starbucks on your lunch break.
“They can get a roommate.” For a one bedroom? A roommate for a one bedroom? Or a studio? Do you have a roommate to get a middle-wage apartment for your middle-wage job? No? Why should they?
“They can live farther from city center and just commute.” Are there ways for them to commute that don’t equate to that rent? Living in an outer borough might work in NYC, where public transport is a flat rate, but a city in Texas requires a car. Does the money saved in rent equal the money spent on the car loan, the insurance, the gas? Remember, if you want people to take the bus or a bike, the bus needs to be reliable and the bike lanes survivable.
If you want minimum wage workers to be around for you to rely on, then those minimum wage workers need a place to stay.
You either raise the minimum wage, or you drop the rent. There’s only so long you can keep rents high and wages low before your workforce leaves for cheaper pastures.
“Nobody wants to work anymore” doesn’t hold water if the reason nobody applies is because the commute is impossible at the wage you provide.
Every day I get closer and closer to no longer identifying as trans, and simply being a genderless intersex person. Because the average trans perisex person is just as fucking intersexist as the average cis perisex person, and I’m so fucking tired of it.
Y'all try to split hairs and decide which experiences are “trans man experiences” and which experiences are “trans women experiences,” and you try to cram nonbinary people into “transmasc or transfemme,” and you insist on splitting trans people into categories based on their birth assignment, and you fucking wonder why you’re not making headway in any actual gender liberation.
Assholes.
Throwback to the time I posted on Facebook about how scared I was about the rise in transphobia because someone in my neighborhood had just screamed “TRANNY!” at me from a car window, and a (now very much ex) friend decided to lecture me about how I wasn’t as high-risk as some hypothetical trans woman and me talking about being scared was akin to cultural appropriation.
This. This is why we can’t make any fucking progress. Y'all are more interested in discourse over who’s allowed to identify as what or reclaim what slurs, and meanwhile, the average person is still going to call all of us trannies from the car window. And then probably shoot us and claim it was self-defense.
Wow. Thank fuck I’m not the only person feeling this way. I legit don’t want to use any of these words anymore because I’m being accused constantly of attempting to “muddy the waters” and “steal oppression”. Like, yo! The water is muddy!!!!! The oppression is oppressing wether or not you believe it is!!!! I’m genuinely sick of not being able to call this attitude other trans, gnc , and/or queer people have toward others they can’t easily categorize and box into categories as they understand them what it truly is — a genuinely cruel denial of the pain, suffering and oppression other people are facing. Because on some level they truly need to believe that there is a sector of people having a fundamentally easier time at existing as a queer/trans/gnc person and the privilege they get from that is enough to oppress other queer/trans/gnc people with because it’s easier to feel safe and in control when you refuse to accept the fact that just as love and gender and sexuality are expansive and complex, so is hate.
Also I’m tired of not being able to be as angry as I should be when other (always always endosex) trans people will literally listen to intersex trans people explain our complex and varied experiences with medical professionals, loved ones, the general public, transphobes, terfs etc etc and they’ll literally look at us and go: “that didn’t happen and if it did it wasn’t that bad and if it was, it wasn’t that big of a deal, and if it was — it wasn’t intended for you anyways, so therefore it doesn’t matter” when it’s like?? Hey you’re literally taking the side of transphobes and terfs and intersexits and transmisogynists and white supremacists over a trans person who is only trying to be understood by you, another trans/gnc/queer person, to build solidarity.
It’s madness.
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Hopepunk is the cold hard knowledge that wallowing in despair while the world burns does nothing to mitigate the situation and that the only logical course of action is to fight back. It is, in essence, disillusionment with disillusionment.
As a meme I saw once but didn’t save said, “Nothing matters, so lets get you some self care bitch.”
If nothing matters, then why would you choose to be cruel, to hurt? Who would want to be that person?
I hate “Nothing Matters.” I think it’s the opposite, really. Everything matters, and it matters so much in ways you cannot imagine to be gentle, to be kind, because no one can know the inner world of another, and thus it is impossible to know how much your kindness or your cruelty can effect them.
We each can do so little, but, if that little bit helps, then… isn’t it worth it? To leave the world kinder than when we arrived? Can’t that be enough?
i saw a post awhile back saying people don’t want queer representation they want queer romance, and that really put words to how i feeling about shipping culture
like wednesday and enid stood in the same room together, didn’t even like each other , and people were screaming at the top of their lungs “MARRIAGE!!”
i think that’s fundamentally why we get so little representation of the trans community and the aro and ace spectrums, i still have yet to hear the word Aromantic on film or tv (i know there’s a tv show rn in i think japan that features a aroace lead i haven’t watched it yet) i’ve seen clips of shows here and there that use the word asexual so that’s good but from what i understand they’re alloace representation which still allows the characters to participate in romance (someone correct me if there’s aroace rep)
idk it’s all just exhausting
i really wish there was a stronger push for like queer people just existing in tv and film instead of the only option being romantic relationships
think before you apply binary terms to the experiences of a stranger. agab and transfem/transmasc are popular as more inclusive terms but leave much to be desired :(
[ID: A Geordi La Forge/Drake meme in three parts. Geordi holds a hand up towards a white background with two squares, one pink with an F and one blue with an M, below text reading “binary gender”.
In the second panel set he holds up a hand towards a triangle below the text “gender spectrum based on binary”. The triangle is a color-gradient labelled “masc” in a blue corner, “fem” in a pink corner, and “unaligned” in white at the top.
In the final panel set he points with approval at a rainbow spiral of colors, which reads “gender is a construct. the parts of binary that appeal to you are not universal. the trans community is not limited to masc, fem, none, or in-between.” End ID]
the trans community is not limited to masc, fem, none, or in-between
Hey if you’re schizophrenic/psychotic I just want you to know that you’re a wonderful person and that you deserve so much better than the demonization, marginalization and stigmatization you face in this society.
Please consider reblogging this/other positivity posts for schizophrenic/psychotic people every once in a while. If you have more than 100 followers, odds are that a couple of them experiences psychosis and that they rarely see positivity posts for people with their symptoms.
