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stop judging transfems worth and validity by how “passing” their voices are.
ok but seriously this is such a big problem. my voice does not pass and i honestly love that! my voice is great! i dont want to change it. people shouldnt have to change parts of themselves just because others dont find it to their liking.
stop treating voice training like its some necessary crucible all transfems must endure to be a “real woman”. voice has no bearing on gender. voice training is hard! not everyone has the time, energy, motivation, or will to do it. thats not a bad thing!
i could elaborate more on this but i dont feel a particular need to grovel on the ground and explain exactly why its okay for a woman to have a deep voice. its really goddamn simple honestly. if you cant understand that, youre transphobic, plain and simple.
people are always like “i have face blindness but i’m good with names” or “im terrible with names but i never forget a face” well baby idk how to tell u this but i am . bad at both.
yesterday i didn’t recognize my coworker bc he was wearing a purple shirt and im used to him wearing all black
I want trans doctors performing my surgery trans journalists reporting the news, trans historians writing textbooks. I don’t want trans capitalists walking on wall street or trans cops patrolling my neighborhood. I want trans musicians playing on my stereo trans designers crafting my clothes trans chefs filling my stomach trans farmers planting my food & trans gardeners picking flowers for my funeral.
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it’s actually fine and cool if someone prefers certain people use certain pronouns for them and other people use different pronouns for them for whatever reason
like sometimes i want people who don’t really know me to use they/them pronouns more than they use she/her for me, whereas im okay with family referring to me only with she/her because it feels comfortable and familiar (and “lived-in” in a sense). and sometimes it varies depending on my mood or the day, it’s literally fine and not a big deal. i don’t think it’s too weird or complicated at all. just use the pronouns someone tells you to use without saying “b-b-but you let these people use these other pronouns for you!” yeah and you’re not them. okay?
hope it’s okay to tag onto this because it truly resonates with something I’ve been considering for the longest time now: that society at large needs to start treating pronouns more like we do names and nicknames in the sense that it’s already quite normal to go by different names and accept different (nick)names under different social contexts (e.g., getting called “sweetheart” by your partner vs. by your boss – VERY different). after all, aren’t pronouns merely a way to shorthand somebody’s name? people generally understand when someone asks to no longer be called a certain (nick)name and to instead be called something else (at least where i live). the same ought to be true for pronouns. it’s a basic modicum of respect to refer to someone the way they prefer to be refered to in different contexts, be it their name or their pronouns.
good morning, “autism isn’t bad, (notable genius/inventor/etc.) was autistic!” isnot good talk for promote accept autism
intelectual disable autistic exist
autistic with severe issue exist
autistic who never gonna be “that smart” exist
autistic who severe disable in other ways exist
autistic who need help live life exist
& that OK. we OK. we deserve love & accept. we not need be useful genius who save day. is OK if you see self in those ppl, but not all us do, & cannot use them as reason we should be value.
we should be value because each living breathing person. end story
I’ve reblogged this before, but it’s still so important.
disabled people don’t need to be “useful” or “intelligent” in order to have value. any disability activism that bases itself off of the idea that we can bring some kind of “useful addition” to society is leaving behind anyone who can’t.
disabled people shouldn’t have to try harder at everything than abled people just to prove that we have value and worth as human beings.
human beings love to be like ‘heres a thing with a finite number of variations’ & then sort it into categories. & theyre always wrong. everything is multitudinous & unfathomable & theres nothing you can do about it. but the human desire to make sense of the universe is also boundless & inexorable & theres nothing you can do about that either.
not to be excessively jewish but sometimes i forget that most people don’t genuinely hold a grudge against the roman empire
it is really one of those crazy things though. like….the west In General kind of does believe its history started with rome. the tribes/nations/[etcetera] conquered by and absorbed into the roman empire in europe don’t seem to be given much thought based on my observations. it’s weird.
this is an opinion i’ve had for a very long time (and i’m sure i’m not the first to have had it) but anyway i think that the legacy of romanization and the ideology behind it (“civilizing barbarians”) is very much still relevant, in that if you believe that your civilization began with your primitive ancestors being “civilized” by an empire, and that this was an entirely good, natural, desirable thing to have occurred…….well.
Any attempt to draw a rigid line around and between LGBTQ+ identities will ultimately fail. Lesbians can have complex relationships with gender that include androgyny or masculinity. The line between lesbian and bisexual/otherwise mspec or gay and bisexual/otherwise mspec can get blurred and some people find their home in the grey area. There are asexual people who have sex and aromantic people who date and attraction that isn’t quite platonic or romantic. Different mspec labels overlap and that’s okay. There are men who are women and women who are men and you can’t quite separate the two. People who exist right between feminine man and trans woman, or masculine woman and trans man. Queerness is messy and that’s what makes it beautiful, so why try to draw lines when we could let the colors bleed into one another?
