ghostlymoonmoth:

A quick little warning/reminder for trans ppl on this website, especially nonbinary ppl:

You know how nosy ass cis people will ask you questions like “what’s in your pants?” or “what were you born as?” or “what are you really?” to try and ask what gender you were assigned at birth or what genitals you have?

A lot of them, and other trans people tbh, have learned how to ask the same exact question, but dress it up in “”“progressive”“” enough language that it almost doesn’t look like they’re being transphobic about it

Here’s a few examples: “are you transmasculine or transfeminine?” “Are you amab or afab?” “Are you tme or tma?”

Which is. The same thing that the nosy cis ppl were asking in my previous example lmao

I just want yall to know that you don’t owe anyone this information, and that not everyone is going to fit neatly into binaries like amab/afab or transmasc/transfem or tme/tma. And please quit asking people questions like that out of nowhere, especially strangers on the internet. It’s very rude and invasive.

pansyfem:

pansyfem:

but i genuninly dont know how to get some of you people to get this but your opinion of what being trans is or what being a lesbian is or what being bisexual is or whatever does not and will not ever effect whether someone is that or not

theres people who identify as trans and will never socially or medically transition. there are people who identify as lesbians who’s partners later turn out to be men. theres trans women who identify as gay men. theres always going to be people who you dont like who identify as the same as you. but you dont get to decide theyre not this or that. because you’re not them.

mypretty-floral-bonnet:

i see all these posts around here that are like “date someone who…” and all that’s fine and good but like i feel like they focus on cutesy stuff and leave some really important stuff out. so like yes, date someone who you can watch netflix with and pet dogs with and make waffles with but also 

• date someone who will call you out on your shit
  
• date someone who thinks the sun shines out of your ass, but also knows you’re not perfect and will offer the support you need to change and grow
• date someone who doesn’t passively accept your flaws, but recognizes them and helps you deal with them
• date someone who you can disagree with but still love and care for all the same
• date someone who can understand where you’re coming from and help you through your rough times
• date someone who won’t enable your negative, self-destructive habits and tendencies
• date someone who doesn’t think “you’re perfect don’t ever change” but rather “i love you and will help and support you in whatever changes you need to make”
• date someone who sees you not as a perfect lover but as a human being and who wants to be with you even though they can see all your faults

basically date someone who’s going to be with you, not just worship you. and more importantly, be this person for your SO. do not put them on a pedestal and call it love.

chronicallylatetotheparty:

magnoliae:

no offence but I dont give two shits how big a carbon footprint inhalers and other medical equipment have when theyre keeping someone alive. like sorry you shouldnt feel guilty over the medical device that allows you to breathe when shell can guzzle oil directly into a birds mouth and nothing happens

Remember kids: your “carbon footprint” is corporate propaganda.

annieisyourfavourite:

annieisyourfavourite:

once you understand that a vibrator is an accessibility tool, your understanding of disabled issues and of the world really widens

most people only think of accessibility tools in a barebones kind of way. a ramp is needed to physically enter spaces, a cane is needed so i don’t fall over while standing, captions are needed to literally be able to understand words being spoken.

some people go a little farther and understand them in terms of daily life functions, like adaptive clothing, or pre-cut food. still, these things are only seen as needing access tools because they’re baseline human functions. eating. walking. wearing clothes.

my vibrator is an access tool. because of my conditions, i can’t hold my hand where it needs to be long enough to masturbate. masturbating isn’t a necessary human function. i will not die if i don’t do it. i won’t lose my job if i don’t do it.

but the thing about a vibrator, is that it makes an aspect of life that i want to enjoy possible. disabled access is not only about the barebones basic necessities to literally be alive. if someone wants to have orgasms, a vibrator is an important tool to a pleasurable life. food delivery makes eating delicious food possible. sensory friendly live performances makes enjoying theatre and music possible. shower seats mean people can sit and enjoy a long shower that otherwise would have exhausted them. service dogs let people go out with their friends when they wouldn’t have otherwise. my cane doesn’t just help me walk, it helps me keep balance while i’m dancing at the club.

disabled people deserve so much more than to just get by. we deserve to have full, pleasurable lives, to experience all the kinds of things that able-bodied people get to experience too. access tools are meant to help us not only survive, but to really thrive too

undeadcorvid:

Others have said it better and more eloquently, but the LGBT community has a massive fear and disgust of masculinity it needs to reckon with in order to be whole. Bears, transmascs, masculine enbies, AMAB enbies, butch lesbians, masc intersex folk, drag kings, and those who find themselves in some fluid space between them or are masc in ways I’ve left out - they all need support from the LGBT community, they all have the same traumas from being queer, and all of them  that I’ve met have some horror story about hitting the ‘must be this femme to ride’ bar.

You can be gnc and masculine. This needs to be embraced.

Masculine people are not the enemy. The community needs to be as ready to embrace its brothers as it is its sisters. We are all queer.

knowlesian:

not to be an old cranky leftist but going forward i think those of us who live in the us need to remember a protest is not a group powerwalk to register polite disapproval with those in power

a protest is an implied threat. a protest says there are a lot of us, and we do not like what you’re doing. we are giving you a chance to course correct before we take things to the next level.

if there’s no shared commitment to the potential of moving to that next level: a protest is useless and essentially just public performance art.

kiwifluid:

kiwifluid:

air conditioning is a human right and im being 100% serious.

it’s over 100°F here with the heat index and it’s only June. with climate change it is only going to get worse from here. it’s well past discomforting and into dangerous, especially if you’re homeless or otherwise don’t have reliable access to shelter. every person who dies of heatstroke, dehydration, etc. is being actively murdered.

afloweroutofstone:

The thing about “the LGBTQ community” is that it has always been an explicitly political coalition. We didn’t all just come together and hug one day.

As a cis bi man, I have nothing individually at stake in political attacks on lesbians and trans people (sometimes I don’t even have anything at stake with certain attacks on gay men!) But I treat an attack on any of those groups as an attack on myself, because basically anyone who wants to target those groups also wants to target my group. This has always been the case: there is no inherent reason why gay men would form a community with lesbians, or lesbians with bisexuals, or bisexuals with straight trans people. But historically we know that an attack on one of us inevitably precedes an attack on more of us, so there was a choice made to unify under a shared umbrella.

The right knows this, and in recent decades has been investing in highlighting wedge issues to divide the coalition and weaken its collective power even as it grows larger. Attacks on trans people from cis LGBQs need to be understood as a form of support for these efforts at disempowering all LGBTQ communities (ex. those TERF orgs that signed on to a legal briefing opposing a comprehensive anti-LGBTQ discrimination law because it included trans people)

biggest-gaudiest-patronuses:

it can be therapeutic to admit “actually my childhood was deeply fucking awful.” not “my parents tried” or “there were good times too” or “I was lucky in certain ways” but solely to acknowledge “I went though some fucking messed up shit what the fuck was that about ”