gottagofastgremlinchild:

hey you know what’s really FUCKING annoying? the fact that the only type of neurodivergent trauma anyone ever talks about is gifted kid syndrome.

i’m not trying to say that being a burnt out former gifted kid isn’t terrible, i mean hell, i even relate to some of it what with having above average reading skills as a kid. but there are other things we need to talk about as well. like the troubled kids.

i was only allowed to stay in kindergarten if my mom was there with me to prevent me from having violent meltdowns, i would screech wordlessly when feeling pretty much any strong emotion and i didn’t grow out of it until i was almost 11, and i ended up getting kicked out of 4th grade.

no matter how hard i tried, nothing i did or said ever resulted in praise or even acceptance from people around me. at a certain point, around 7 or 8, i just stopped trying and it wasn’t until i was diagnosed with autism and put into a special ed classroom that i even moderately succeeded in math.

‘troubled’ and 'stupid’ kids are significantly more common in neurodivergent communities and the fact that only gifted kids are talked about just strikes me as kinda suspicious considering that autistic people in our society are only considered valuable if we’re quirky geniuses and ADHD experiences are only taken seriously if we’re #relatable.

i’m not saying that gifted kids can’t talk about their experiences, but i am saying that i think some of you need to take a step back and look at your own internalized ableism and how it might be affecting others in the nuerodiverse community

wetwareproblem:

wetwareproblem:

williamfbuckley:

fakeosphere:

leviathan-supersystem:

90% of arguments about media could just be solved by saying “different people like different things in their stories” and leaving it at that

this person probably humanizes cops/racists, rape, child abuse, incest etc as long as its fictional lol

this is a good and normal leap in logic to make from this post!

I certainly hope they do, and not just when it’s fictional. Humanizing them is an important step in stopping the actual real-world harm.

If you recognize that they’re human, then you can understand it’s an issue of rationale and perspective, not Inherent Evil - and you can learn to think like an adversary. This is the first step in developing a good security mindset. That mindset, in turn, is the first tool you need to build functional safety measures and protections for your community.

There’s an added bonus, too - if you recognize that they’re people, you’ll notice that not many people are villains in their own narratives. They aren’t choosing to be evil, they’re rationalizing their harmful choices. And you start asking questions.

If you recognize that cops are people, you learn to ask yourself “Am I being reactionary, authoritarian, and needlessly violent?”

If you recognize that racists are people, you learn to recognize and unpack the racist lessons you were taught.

If you learn that rapists are people, you learn to actively verify consent.

By recognizing that terrible people are not Inherently Bad, but choosing to do terrible things for reasons they think justify them, you get better at protecting yourself from them - and protecting everyone around you from your worst tendencies. It’s a difficult and ongoing process, but it’ll protect you far better than any list of specific Bad Things to watch out for.

There’s a flipside to this, of course, and it’s important:

Anyone who tells you that your enemies are inhuman monsters is using you.

Either they’re trying to convince you that they couldn’t possibly be an Enemy because they’re a normal person… or they’re trying to keep you from noticing the little rationalizations. To convince you that atrocity is okay when you do it.

Don’t fall for either lie.

dimpledthings:

don’t be embarrassed that little joys take up a lot of space in your heart. sometimes they’re the most important things there are in your life, and deserve your attention

mentalhealth:

tordenvejr:

it is not an evil thing to look at yourself with kindness. your life was never meant to be a punishment

your life was never meant to be a punishment

lillyjetaime:

Being able to endure something does not equal an obligation to withstand it.

budgiesmuggled-deactivated20210:

Passing: Profiling the Lives of Young Trans Men of Color (2015).

[ID: Excerpts from interviews with two trans men. The first, Lucah Rosenberg Lee, has a shaved head and a trimmed beard. The second, Victor Thomas, has curly black hair and a trimmed beard, and is heavier-set.

Lucah, talking about gender dysphoria prior to transitioning, says, “I was in a heterosexual relationship. I was female. I would question this all the time. Am I attracted to these men, or do I just want to be them? That was a big turning point in my own self-discovery.”

Victor, talking about the transphobia he’s endured as a trans man of color, says, “You’re subjected to something because they don’t understand you. And you have to watch the way you react, because you’re a man now. People take you as a threat.”

Lucah, in another scene, discusses feeling erased as a trans man, and racism in trans communities. He says, “Being so invisible within the LGBT community can actually feel so isolating. When people don’t know my history as a trans person, I feel sometimes that I’m viewed as more of an enemy.” END ID.]

Trans men of color deserve to be loved and appreciated, and made safe. Trans men deserve access to our own spaces, no matter how masculine and cis-passing we are. We deserve credit and recognition for the contributions that we have made to trans history, most of which are erased nowadays.

Being a man is not dangerous or wrong. Being masculine is not dangerous or wrong. Being a black man is not dangerous or wrong.

Please support trans men of color.

Please support trans men.

Please support men.

Men belong in trans spaces. Men of color belong in LGBT+ spaces. Straight trans men belong at Pride. Men do not have to be feminine to be queer.

blackfilmmakers:

Like the writers strike, this will probably affect a lot of movie productions and shows, especially on various streaming services. Some will be on hiatus, some might be cut short, some might even be cancelled

And I can understand how that would upset fans. We’ve been entertained by this content during a different period for most of us. Of course it sucks to know that your favorite show you’ve grown attached to may end suddenly

But the fact of the matter is that thousands of crew members are dangerously overworked. Those who work on productions for streaming services are also paid significantly less. I can’t even fathom how badly they’ve handled COVID protocols on set. It’s the main reason I have been reluctant to find a job in film right now. Even internships are looking a bit risky.

So if you’re favorite series is getting cancelled or put on hiatus, do not blame the strike. Blame the executives, the top people in Hollywood and all these streaming services that refuse to care about the health and safety of their workers

simonsnowsfreckles:

unpopular opinion: sometimes… fandom isn’t that important. sometimes fandom isn’t “that deep” to someone. sometimes people don’t interact within the fandom and like to watch from afar. sometimes people just want to look at cool art or read cool fanfics, and that’s it.

let’s normalize fandom being a hobby or an interest and not a lifestyle. normalize taking a step back, taking time off and disconnecting from fandom without feeling bad. it’s okay and healthy to prioritize yourself over media instead of consuming it 24/7. it’s okay to set boundaries and enjoy something the way you need.