janeway-suggestion:

It’s okay to grieve for lost potential.

It’s okay to grieve for time spent surviving instead of living.

It’s okay to wish you could go back and change the past.

And it’s okay if you don’t feel up to it yet, but one day you’ll be able to stand up and decide to create a new future to make up for it. 💞

largishcat:

just got hit by a wave of what feels a lot like grief. i was so angry this morning, and i still am, but you know what this simply sucks. yeah that gandalf quote etc, but this really really sucks and we don’t deserve this. this isn’t punishment for our sins, and yeah there’s a laundry list of things liberals, leftists, democrats, feminists, etc could have done to better protect everyone going all the way back the 70s when the ERA failed to pass. but again, this isn’t punishment for our sins, we weren’t asking for it, we don’t secretly deserve it. this is and always has been an unprovoked attack by people who hate us just for existing. this has always been the case. as we prepare to fight AGAIN for rights that we deserve simply for being human, we have to remember. that we do not deserve this

thoradvice:

to everyone who’s lost a dad, has suffered abuse from their dad, has no or a strained relationship to their dad, is struggling to concieve, or anything else that makes today hard, i see you. you have every right to take today for yourself. you have no obligation to call your dad or do anything for him, if he hasn’t earned it. sending everyone struggling today so much love.

geopsych:

mamoru:

there is no minimum amount of suffering before you are allowed to want to alleviate it

Off topic but a reminder.

smokedsalmoniloveyou:

i’m going to make a life i love even if it’s not the one i expected or thought i wanted. and i am going to let myself be proud and grateful of what i do have. i am allowed to be proud of it without other people realizing the gravity of what i have accomplished in scale to my life and abilities. i do not need permission.

bagel-rights-activist:

hey shout out of recognition and validation to all the queer people who didn’t exhibit many queer behaviors or have queer many experiences when they were young!! shout out to trans women and trans men who didn’t feel bad about or uncomfortable with their AGAB when they were younger and didn’t gravitate toward the “opposite side of things”. shout out to nonbinary and genderfluid ppl who felt content with their AGAB all of their childhood or even teen years. shout out to lesbians who didn’t have any crushes on girls growing up and liked traditionally feminine things and shout out to gay men who didn’t have any crushes on boys growing up and liked traditionally masculine things. shout out to bi and pan and omni people who only had hetero attractions growing up. shout out to aros and aces who thought they experienced crushes or attraction or whatever while growing up and didn’t feel excluded by being surrounded by allo people. shout out to literally any queer people who didn’t “show the signs” growing up because that can make you feel invalidated or worried that you’re faking it and you shouldn’t feel worried about that! When we say that everyone’s journey and experience is different, that includes you!! Happy pride month <3

doctorprofessorsong:

I’m gonna say it here too. Allow me to be crystal fucking clear.

• It is not cowardly to stay in the closet. Full stop. You do not owe anyone any part of yourself you aren’t ready to share
• If you unable to come out because you fear for your safety or well-being or because you know it will cause you substantial discomfort, that is not a defect in you. It’s a failure of the society in which you live and the community surrounding you.
• If you just don’t want to share that part of yourself, that is valid and I support you

heterophobiclesbean:

The ironic paradox of biphobia and lesbophobia is that lesbophobia will have you believe society wants you to be bi and biphobia will have you believe society wants you to be lesbian. The reality is that society does not want you to be lesbian or bi; that society only wants you to be straight, but will not hesitate to use other identities against you. If that means tricking you into believing your closest allies occupy a higher social standing than you and wish to keep you beneath them in the same way the straights do to them, then so be it. It’s not even divide and conquer, its recruiting us to do their own bidding and ridding them of us in the process. Heterosexuals as a class do not prefer lesbians to bisexuals or bisexuals to lesbians, though individually each one might have differing opinions on which are most or least acceptable.

Attempting to convince you that bi privilege or monosexual privilege exists is intended to shift our arms towards our allies instead of our oppressors.