this took me a while to unlearn, until someone basically said “look, colors are a spectrum. if you assign pink to women and blue to men, that doesn’t make every other color a variation of purple” 

^potentially helpful way to conceptualize this

I remember one tumblr post that went around ages ago that suggested thinking of gender less like this

and more like this.

Which honestly helped me understand this concept more than anything else when I first started to explore ideas of gender and sexuality

Also also!!! There’s a saturation setting too!!!

So you can have much much gender, or varying amounts of gender, or no gender at all!!