men have such profound cognitive dissonance when it comes to rape. like when I was young my dad didn’t want me hanging out with guys because knew “what teenage boys are like” and didn’t trust them with me, but he’s a conservative who thinks feminists are crazy because “not all men” are bad. 

men will call women paranoid and resent us for treating men as if they might become dangerous, but if we do get hurt, they’ll turn around and blame us for being stupid and naive. 

like, if I don’t go home with a guy because he might be dangerous, I’m sexist and unfairly generalizing men as violent. if I do go and something happens, it’s my fault putting myself in a dangerous position. men know that they are a danger to us, but they don’t want us to know—except their daughters.