“Many queer spaces, events, and practices do not welcome autistic people. These spaces may not explicitly aim to exclude us, but they are not designed or planned with people like me, who have sensory sensitivities, an intense need for structure, and atypical social behaviors, in mind. Crowded parties, nightclubs, protests, and parades trigger sensory overload, something that happens whenever my senses are overstimulated by the environment. Seemingly small details, like cold weather, smoke, coconut scent, or unexpected splashes of water can be a deal breaker in regards to whether or not I can withstand being in a particular place. Moreover, social gatherings can be unpredictable and vague. It is rare that I consider attending something if I don’t have ample details and a schedule in advance, which causes me to miss out on seeing lots of friends, going to concerts, and dating. I have to put up massive facades to make it through most events, or risk enduring painful comments on my overly formal conversation style, my pickiness, and stolid face. An overstimulating event — like a party at a bar — can leave me feeling hungover and sick for days.”