imo we need to swap the phrase “no one will love you until you love yourself” with something to the effect of “if you dnt recognize your own value, you’re a lot more likely to put up with mistreatment that you dnt deserve”
it’s not rly a matter of self-love as much as it is being able to stand up for yrself when you need to, and even though the latter is part of that process, it’s still not the same thing
Also, “if you don’t recognize your own value, you’re less likely to recognize and believe when someone else loves and values you.” I can speak to that from personal experience.
It’s not so much “no one will love you until you love yourself”, it’s “it’s very possible someone already loves you, but your self-loathing is making it impossible for you to see that, which is a disservice to you and quite frankly insulting to them.”
I think about this a lot.