yeinesomemdarre:

painandcats:

hatred of disabled people doesn’t have to be blatant:

  • complaining about “people who walk slowly”
  • calling people with specific dietary restrictions needy/fakers/high-maintenance/etc.
  • insinuating someone isn’t responsible if they’re “living in their parents’ basement”/some variation thereof
  • insinuating that students with disabilities are actually “cashing in on special treatment”
  • praising what are basically snuff films about disabled characters
  • defending the casting of abled people for disabled roles
  • defending paying us lower wages

-being invasive about our private lives and our disability
-casually dismissing our concerns & objections to ableism as unimportant
-attempting to compare and contrast disabled people against each other (whether they have the same disability/ies or not) for the purposes of inspiration or shaming us for how we choose to live our lives
-along the lines of the last one - presuming that any two people experience the same or similar disability in the same way
-pretending to know our own needs and capacities better than we do even when you don’t know us at all
-becoming angry and exerting your power over us when we point out how your actions and/or words were harming us to start, but then claiming your behavior is induced because of other reasons (gaslighting)