Finding out you’re queer as a teenager or adult when you were raised outside of that culture is kind of like those stories about finding out you’re the secret heir to some other kingdom, tbh.
- Something you’ve always thought of as far-off and Nothing To Do With You is suddenly this massive part of your life.
- All your ideas about what the rest of your life would be like are suddenly shattered and you have to try to figure out what it will actually be like.
- You have to learn a whole new history, language, and set of manners, if you want to embrace your heritage.
- It can become suddenly very important that no one discovers your true identity, because you might be in danger if they knew.
- You’ll probably discover a whole new family that will love you.
- You might get to introduce your family of origin and your found family… or you might have to leave your old family behind after they find out who you are.
- If you remain part of your family of origin, you constantly have to educate them so they don’t embarrass you with your new family or hurt you by insulting who you are.
- You might totally change the way you dress, wear your hair, etc..
- People who knew what to watch for turn out to have guessed long before you figured it out, and you constantly discover new clues you never noticed before.
- Your expectations wrt marriage might suddenly become totally different.
Now I kinda want to write something where a lesbian who’s always known she was gay finds out she’s a princess, and meets a princess who’s always known her heritage but is just realizing she’s sapphic…
PLEASE WRITE THE THING