you decide how you define your gender and sexual and romantic orientations

you decide which pronouns are right for you

you decide how to present yourself and what to do with your own body

you decide the terms of your relationships with other people and reserve the right to cut them off if they are harmful or invalidating

you decide how you relate to your identities on any given day because these things aren’t always unmalleable

you decide your comfort zone, you decide your limits, you decide how you do you

and forget anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, for real.