Man it’s really important that when you say to a kid “sorry doesn’t cut it this time” that you explain how a real apology works
Explain that when they apologize they should recognize what they did wrong, apologize for it, and tell the person what behavior they’ll fix so it doesn’t happen again.
Because if you just tell a kid “sorry doesn’t cut it this time” then tell them nothing else what the hell are they gonna do? They’re gonna sit and wonder why the thing you told them to do wasn’t right this time, but have no ideas what to do past it. They’re just gonna be confused. And it’s our job as adults to explain this stuff to them.
Also, if you threaten a child into giving an apology, it’s not a real apology. They aren’t saying sorry because they’re sorry, they’re saying it because you’re forcing them to.
Same goes for “it’s okay.” Don’t make children act out the “I’m sorry” / “It’s okay” script when the one might not actually be sorry, and the second might not actually be okay.