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thatdiabolicalfeminist:

“I prefer intelligence to beauty” doesn’t make you deep, you’re literally just replacing one ill-defined social standard based on the interests of the privileged, with another.

Both ideas are social constructs and they’re both being defined by the same white supremacist, classist, ableist cisheteropatriarchy.

When people think about what it means to be intelligent, we largely imagine the kinds of intelligence likely to be found in wealthy abled white cishet men, discounting the contributions of anyone else, with notable exceptions who are praised for their resemblance to those same powerful white men - just as when people think of beauty we’re trained to think of a white wealthy thin abled cis woman, and anyone else can only be beautiful by resembling that narrow ideal.

“What does it mean to be intelligent?” is a question with as infinitely many answers as “What does it mean to be beautiful?” but they’re both shrunk into tiny narrowly-defined boxes in order to be used as tools for maintaining power. Both constructs should be aggressively questioned and reimagined in order to become something other than weapons against those who do not hold social power.

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Anonymous: How old were you when you lost your virginity???
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thatsthat24:

It was the winter of 1932 on the wintery tundra of Saskatchewan. I had put my virginity down for only a second, but when I turned to retrieve it, it was gone. It’s been 82 years, and not a day goes by when I don’t wonder where my virginity ran off to, and how much differently my life would be if I had never lost it. Godspeed to you, virginity. Godspeed.

This is your periodic reminder that not everyone’s family is warm and loving. Parents can be toxic and abusive. Siblings can be jealous and dismissive. Genetics don’t demand respect. No one owes forgiveness or love to anyone just because they’re family.

Not everyone has the same life experiences. Remember that in life and online, and be gentle with one another.