thebootydiaries:

have a seat we need to talk

medicine:

Read about each victim of the Orlando Pulse shooting here. Remember their names, their faces, and their stories.

wilwheaton:

micdotcom:

Watch: Comedian Jim Jeffries nailed America’s gun law hypocrisy in 2014.

Fuck the NRA.

I HAVE SAID THIS TO MY HUSBAND SO MANY TIMES!!!

adulthoodisokay:

Honestly, Canada, now you’re just rubbing it in our faces.

je-m-appelle-lafayette:

pinklikeme:

amazing-lulu:

doolas-backup-blog:

Mara Wilson comes out

The apology : “@MaraWritesStuff if this is your way of coming out then i apologise and if not i stand by what i said”

Whoever that person is, what they did was wrong. Even with the apology it’s wrong. Mara Wilson was forced to come out to prove she could be allowed to speak about a homophobic terrorist attack that she was upset about, and she was legitimate to talk about it and to be upset about it even if she had been straight.

You see the thing with “allies” is that a lot of closeted people will call themselves ally rather than come out. Being agressive to allies of the LGBTQIA community, what’s the point really? Being gay is not like being a POC, or being visibly disabled, it’s something you can conceal and many people will take the decision to do so for their own safety or simply because they want to come out on their own term.

Also this behavior comes from assuming any LGBTQIA ally has to be just a straight person, and never a closeted queer person, and I can’t believe I have to say that because it’s obvious but *this is heteronormativity*. Assuming someone has to be straight before even thinking they might be queer is a shining example of heteronormativity.

And as someone who has yet to come out and who would like to come out on their own term, and who would say to LGBTQIA communities that I’m just an ally outside of this blog, I’m incredibly upset about that story. I’m afraid I might be forced to come out just to give legitimacy to my feelings and that’s just not right. I would like to decide when I will be strong enough to come out.

Please do not ever force people to come out.

Do not ever question allies’ right to express their feelings on the subject because you don’t know -you can’t know- which one of them are closeted.

Also people are not speaking over you when they are expressing their feeling on their own page. They are speaking over the community when:
- they derail the conversation inside the community to speak about their feelings or about how they are totally not homophobic, or
-when allies’ opinions are overall more popular and more shared than queer people, in which case, 1. It’s not their fault so don’t accuse them to speak over the community 2. Just shut up, don’t retweet it and for every angry message you’d like to post *retweet the opinion of a queer person instead*.
-when they are speaking over the community by expressing what members of the community should feel or do to be acceptable to them, or disregarding/appropriating the community’s culture, which is absolutely not the case here.

Look I get that allyship has to be uncomfortable because of all the internalized homophobia, transphobia, racism and misogyny, because it takes time, humility and hard work to not be prejudiced, and because it also takes the ability to sometimes shut up to highlight the opinion of members of the community instead. But don’t express hate and agressivity toward people who are trying to help, who are being sincere and who are expressing their sadness and compassion, because those feelings are precious and shouldn’t be looked upon, because empathy is beautiful and because we can’t burn all the bridges people are building between our social groups when they are sincere and trying their best.

We are stronger together, as human beings, with our feelings and with people trying to help so please don’t build more borders than there already is, it’s not helping.

All of this. I was an “Ally” for a long time- until I was 25! Until I finally realized that the reason I was so passionate and loved these people so much was. Oh. Oh.

I am so glad Mara is one of us, and even if she wasn’t, she’d be welcome.

^^^^
I didn’t fully come out of the closet til I was 28. Doesn’t make my identity any less valid.

wilwheaton:

rubyetc:

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me_irl