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3 Ways to Keep Yourself Safe When You're Not Ready to Leave Your Abusive Partner

everydayfeminism.com
If you're in a relationship with an abusive partner, you're not alone – this author can relate, as can countless other survivors, who make an average of seven attempts before leaving for good. You should feel safe, not just if you want to leave, but right now.

revolutionarykoolaid:

misssatori:

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hellyeahscarleteen:

In addition to what’s mentioned in this link, we have some info to help folks make a plan to stay safe when leaving an abusive relationship, and when they can’t leave just yet: The Scarleteen Safety Plan

Seriously, I’ve only been able to skim this article so far, but I definitely plan on reading the whole thing later

If you’re being abused by your partner, and you’re reading this right now, then you have awe-inspiring strength.

You’re suffering, but you have the courage to seek out ideas on how to take care of yourself.

I’m guessing you haven’t come across many tips like these. When I was being abused, the only advice I found was about how to leave an abusive partner, or how to heal after you’ve left.

In this society we sometimes talk about abuse victims being strong after they leave, but frame them as weak before hand. I think that is so wrong. Living in an abusive relationship takes a strength that most people cannot even comprehend. you’re not weak because you stay. there are a million reasons why we stay because, frankly, abusers actively work to keep their victims trapped. 

So know that if you’re in an abusive relationship right now as you read this, I think you are strong as fuck, and I am rooting hard as hell for you. 

Honestly, if people feel even a little inclined to reblog this, I would appreciate it. I am not trying to guilt anyone, if you don’t reblog I won’t think you’re a horrible person, that’s totally your prerogative… But if these words can help even just one current victim of domestic violence… I would be so happy. 

So many people can’t leave. So many. Please be safe.

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lbpqs:

hey just a reminder that both ‘bi’ and ‘lesbian’ don’t necessarily have to mean anything about your relationship to sex. lesbians who aren’t interested in having sex/aren’t sexually attracted to anyone can call themselves ace lesbians if they want to, or homoromantic asexuals, but lesbian covers that too. especially with ‘homoromantic’ - you don’t have to call yourself that. being a lesbian doesn’t require sexual attraction. bi people who aren’t interested in sex/aren’t sexually attracted to anyone don’t have to call themselves biromantic asexual, they can just be bi or even call themselves bisexual. asexual isn’t a label everyone is comfortable with and that doesn’t mean that anyone not identifying as ace must have an interest in sex. 

arahir:

this just in: you don’t need a gun. no one needs a gun. everyone in my family owns at least one gun and no one has ever used it to defend themselves or their home. you know what you use a gun for? showing off with your buds shooting cans on the weekend. that’s it.

the only other thing i’ve ever seen a gun used for was a murder suicide.

you do not need a gun.