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My “real” parents are the ones raising me. The term you are looking for is: biological parent, bio parents, or birth mother/father.
2. Why did your mom give you up?
Again- it’s birth mom, and she did not “give me up.” She placed me for adoption because she thought that was the best option for everyone involved.
3. Why didn’t your birth mom want you?
Many birth mothers DO want their babies, but they decide that doing so would be detrimental to her life as well as the child’s.
4.What if your mom had aborted YOU?
This is usually said to me before the person discovers I’m adopted AND ITS MY FAVORITE. My birth mother almost did abort me and she aborted a pregnancy before mine, and guess what, I still vehemently support her right to do so. My birth mother carried me as a GIFT to my parents and me. She was in no way obligated to do it and it wasn’t easy. Saying she shouldn’t have the right to abort is a slap in the face to her CHOICE. Because that’s what it was. A choice. NOT an obligation.
So in short, don’t ask this unless you want to completely lose your argument.
5. God blessed your parents when he gave them you!
Well first he tormented them with years of infertility, 6 ectopic pregnancies, and some very dangerous miscarriages. Oh, and it was my birth mom that “blessed” them with a child.
6. Where are you from?
This is not one I experience, but many trans-national and trans-racial adoptees HATE this one. It’s mostly annoying because you’re basically asking why they don’t “match” the physical appearance of their adoptive family, but there’s also the fact that they’re not really “from” another country. If they were adopted at a young age, they probably don’t remember living in their birth country.
7. How much did you cost?
Ummm, I was not sold. The phrase you are looking for is: “How much did the adoption process cost?” Adoptions are expensive, but you’re not paying for the child. You pay for lawyer fees, home studies, and agency fees, NOT the child.
8. What was the orphanage like?
If you’re talking to a domestic adoptee, this just tells us you have absolutely no idea how adoption works. No, I was not dropped off at an orphanage. In America (and Canada),very very very few children ever stay in an orphanage. There are only a handful left and most are for special needs children. When a child is placed for adoption, they stay with foster parents or the couple that is planning to adopt them.
As for trans-national adoptees- if they actually did spend time in an orphanage, that may not be an experience they want to talk about with just anyone, so don’t be a dick.
9. WOW! You look like their real kid!
I am their real kid …
10. I don’t think I would feel like an adopted child was really “mine.”
If you feel this way, please just keep it to yourself. I respect your right to make a family in whatever way works for your, but this is not a discussion that I want to have. I feel strongly that family is made of the people that raise you and are there for you. If you try to tell me how “blood ties” are stronger, I will feel extremely awkward and probably a bit upset. Just please don’t …
A pastor says donations of bottled water to his Flint church have dried up in the past month.
Donations poured in from across the nation in the weeks and months after it was learned that Flint’s drinking water was contaminated with lead. At times, the response nearly overwhelmed the effort to distribute water to Flint residents.
Bishop Roger Lee Jones’ north side church parking lot used to be filled with pallets of water, but now the flood of donations has slowed to a trickle.
I fucking hate Mike Pence and I almost dropped my phone in range when my mom told me he was Trump’s pick for vice.
“If you’re still fence-sitting (no pun intended!) because you’re
unsure about Hillary, or still salty about Bernie Sanders dropping out,
get over it.
This election could have a huge impact on the
direction our democracy takes; if you really want to make America great
again, do not fucking vote for these two.“
Some extra lovely info that article links but doesn’t mention about Pence’s policies:
Between 2006 and 2009, Pence voted against raising the minimum wage, expanding health coverage for low-income kids, and providing additional funding for Section 8 vouchers, which help low-income families pay rent.
He refused to comply with Obama administration rules aimed at reducing prison rape
He voted in favor of bills that would have allowed for the detention of undocumented immigrants seeking hospital treatment
He slashed Planned Parenthood funding, spurring clinic closures and an HIV outbreak
He’s the one who signed the bill giving businesses the right to refuse to serve patrons based on ‘strongly held religious beliefs.’
In March 2015, Pence signed a bill
into law permitting business owners to refuse service to gay and
lesbian customers due to their religious beliefs. The bill also allows
religious beliefs to be used as a rationale for other forms of
discrimination, such as refusing to hire someone, refusing to rent to someone, etc. based on race or religion, as long as they claim that it’s due to “strongly held religious beliefs.” Keep in mind that most of the christian terrorist organizations being watched by the FBI believe that the darker skin of black persons is a sign they’re being punished by God, and it’s not as niche as we’d like to think.
Oh hey, wish I’d seen this list before making my own.
Coniogramme emeiensis is a fern in the family Pteridaceae. Commonly known as Mt. Emei bamboo fern, it is native to the Mt. Emei region of China. This species spreads by rhizomes and readily colonizes shady forest floors in its native range. The leaves are unlike many other fern species. Not only are the leaves undivided, but they also have serrated edges and a beautiful variegation pattern. It is for the unique yellow stripes on the leaves that the Mt. Emei bamboo fern is popularly cultivated across the world.
