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selfcarepropaganda:

emiemipearl:

cartopathy:

fullten:

If you’re in that kind of depression where everything is blurry and days blend into one another, taking a lot of photos of positive things might help. If your pet does something cute, you ate something good, got a high score, you cleaned your room, the weather was nice… I’m not saying this will fix your depression, it’s just a good reminder that you are in fact living regardless of the depression distorting your memory and making your past seem like fog of sadness and nothing else.

i wish someone had told me this a few years ago i don’t remember my late twenties

A super good trick, could be very helpful if you are strugglin with disassociation. A picture with a time stamp on it would give you concrete evidence if there’s something you vaguely remember but aren’t sure if it was real or whatever. I know it’s been helpful for me in the past 👌🏻

This is why I don’t throw tantrums at people for instagramming/tweeting about what they had for lunch. Microblogging platforms are another really good way to mark time and to commemorate those little achievements that other people take for granted. Even if all you have to record one day is that you thought of a really awful pun, it all adds up to help you remember that you’re actively existing, even when it doesn’t feel like it.

counting-dollars-counting-stars:

beeishappy:

LSSC | 2016.07.21 | Jon Stewart Takes Over Colbert’s Late Show Desk

Here’s where we are. Either Lumpy and his friends are lying about being bothered by thin-skinned, authoritarian, less-than-Christian, readers of prompters being president, or they don’t care. As long as it’s their thin-skinned, authoritarian, tyrant, narcissist.

Jon dusts off the desk, tie, and not-quite-fitting suit jacket to come at Fox News, and Sean Hannity’s blatant hypocrisy. And Arby’s. For old times’ sake. 

I fucking love them.

liftlikebrittany:

Sometimes you fall off the wagon for months. Sometimes you tell yourself you’re gonna start fresh on Monday and by Wednesday you’ve already fallen back off. Sometimes you have to restart a 100 times and it’s frustrating. But it will be okay. You can do this. One day at a time

kaylapocalypse:

seekingwillow:

malcolm-twrkd-with-ida-4-justice:

drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto:

itsmikuisa:

esinahs:

bougiebussy:

heyblackrose:

I love this

Eh, while it’s great that these characters are independent, something about all these princesses of color not finding love at the end of their movies rubs me the wrong way. Just like how Disney patted itself on the back for a black princess but she was Frogger damn near the whole movie.

And it would’ve been a great opportunity to cast moc in romantic roles from that culture :/

^^^ I’m so conflicted because yes, always having a love interest is annoying but poc never get to have a love interest

Having the princesses of color not find love reinforces the idea that we have to strong and independent and aren’t needing of any support

But I do like it because it deviates from the norm

It might be cool if they had dudes in the movie who were interested and they had the princesses be like, “naw, I got shit to do, but maybe later!”

Cause then it would obviously be a choice, instead of a worldstate that WoC don’t get hetero love (I’m not even gonna wish for queer love).

This is actually a good example of the need for intersectional feminism.

  •  it is very common that white girl characters have love interests and finding love be the plot line and basis for all their stories and interactions.
  • It is uncommon for a girl character of color to be seen as a potential love interest, in need of defense by a male character and/or support from a male character full stop.

This is because of the history of social devaluation of woc and infantilization of white women.

Thusly:

  •  it is subversive for white female characters to not have love interests for once and to focus on strength outside of male attention.

while at the same time 

  • is it subversive for woc to be love interests and treated with care and reverence and with support in relationships on screen. 

The “norms” for two groups of women are different based on the historical interaction both groups have had to suffer under patriarchal and sexist/racist media. 

This is why its okay to feel hurt and roll your eyes when you see people screaming about how michonne from the walking dead “dont need no man” because she’s too “strong” to want to be desired and cared for,  while at the same time feel hurt and roll your eyes when Black Widow is suddenly too helpless to get herself free from a basic ass cage and needs to be rescued by her randomly inserted love interest. 

@drwhothefuckyouthinkyoutalkinto @itsmikuisa @bougiebussy (the others dont have tagging on i dont think)

“

I’ve been a massage therapist for many years, now. I know what people look like. People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.

Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. And that’s very appealing too.

Woman have cellulite. All of them. It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.

Men have silly buttocks. Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say — what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.

Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?

Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule. At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.

I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.

”

— What People Really Look Like (via jumbleofnotes)