absentlyabbie:

turquoisesuggestions:

One act of kindness does not cancel years of abuse.

not one act of kindness. not a dozen. not twenty. not a series of them. not even a steady trickle peppered across those years of abuse.

abuse is abuse, and abusers are very often not exclusively abusive.

your boyfriend may orchestrate incredibly thoughtful dates and buy you sweet little gifts just because. he may also hit you when he loses his temper or micromanage your time and outside relationships or behave with intense suspicion and jealousy. he is still an abuser.

your mother may be your mother, may love you and want the best for you and support you financially or help you move apartments or cook your favorite meal for family dinners. she may also neglect your mental health or manipulate you through guilt or recenter all issues around how it affects her. she may gaslight you and deny the validity of your emotions and experiences. she is still an abuser.

abuse is not cut and dry, and it is often not so easily black and white. it can be hard to identify, and harder still to get others to believe you.

abuse and kindness and love are not mutually exclusive aspects of a relationship; you are not obligated to overlook, excuse, or forgive the former because of the presence or evidence of the latter. abuse is not negated or lessened because there happened also to be kindness, big or small, rare or frequent.

do not fall into the terrible trap of thinking abuse has to be singular and overwhelming to even count as real.

Watching V for Vendetta like ‘This is why we need to vote, people!’

feelingswithbrandy:

So what the fuck is with plus size clothing’s aversion to basics? I was thinking about it, and it’s like…they can’t ever just let a nice, simple item exist, and have to throw on some weird detail. Especially in professional wear, I’ve noticed. It’s like, impossible to find a plain basic thing to layer with. Some of these things can be cute and fun, but not when you can barely find a plain version if you’re lucky. Some examples:

-Oh, a nice cardigan! THE BACK IS LACE.
-Oh, what a nice sensible top for work OH LET’S CUT THE SHOULDERS OPEN.
-a nice, simple camisole WITH FUCKING RHINESTONES ON THE TITS
-This is a pretty dress WITH ONE LONG SLEEVE
-this cardigan doesn’t have any weird crochet on it GIANT TITTY RUFFLES
-what a pretty dress LET’S BUILD IN A CHEAP CULTURALLY-APPROPRIATIVE NECKLACE YOU CAN’T REMOVE
-slacks for work WITH PINK PINSTRIPES KAWAII~
-here’s a good t-shirt to layer with PARIS LOVE SPRAYPAINT DETAIL
-some sensible work pants! AVAILABLE IN JEWEL TONES THAT WILL NEVER MATCH ANYTHING ELSE YOU OWN
-Hey. a sedate black sweater. LOL EXCEPT THERE’S A PLAID COLLAR ON IT
-you wanted this dress in SEQUINED LEOPARD PRINT right?
-What a lovely, professional shirt OH BUT IT HAS A SHARKBITE HEM
-a nice blouse for work IN A CHARTREUSE FLORAL PRINT YOU CAN SEE FROM THE HIGHWAY
-something to wear over sundresses so that your upper arms are covered? PLEASE CHECK OUR “FAT GIRL IN A LITTLE COAT CHRIS FARLEY FOR HER” COLLECTION OF CAP SLEEVE BOLEROS

just-shower-thoughts:

If we don’t accept refugees because 2 out of 100 M&M’s are poisoned then why is it OK the have “a few bad apples” in a police department?