Icon by @ThatSpookyAgent. Call me Tir or Julian. 37. He/They. Queer. Twitter: @tirlaeyn. ao3: tirlaeyn. BlueSky: tirlaeyn. 18+ Only. Star Trek. The X-Files. Sandman. IwtV. OMFD. Definitionless in this Strict Atmosphere.

princessfailureee:

clarknokent:

strawberryhorrorshow:

Being abused made me such a “good kid.”

I was

  • Always polite
  • Never acted without permission
  • Never spoke out of turn
  • Always did what I was told

And it’s shitty that I was considered mature and praised for those things, and all of those characteristics have translated into me being an immature, “bad adult.”

Now I

  • Have difficulty making a keeping friends
  • Can’t act without permission/am dependent on others for direction
  • Am terrible at communicating
  • Have no agency/personal compass

It’s a really difficult thing for people who were abused as children to grapple with.
What made us good children make us bad adults.

This is Important

THIS IS MY LIFE WOW

botanyshitposts:

los-plantalones:

I’M SCREAMING

a note for everyone asking about what the plants on my header are (if @los-plantalones doesnt care if i add onto their very exciting and amazing post), this is another pic: these plants are called Lithops, and are a succulent family native to Nigeria. Lithops have many different sizes, shapes, and colors, but all share the features that they’ve evolved to look like rocks, which unfortunately makes them look like butts. (side note: they were discovered by a botanist visiting nigeria in the 1850s when he saw a weird rock, picked it up, and realized it was actually a plant lol)

once every year or two, they shed their outer butt layer to reveal a new butt layer underneath, because each of the butt cheeks are one leaf structure (one butt=one leaf); a plant can grow more leaves, but usually only grows them in sets of two. example of shedding:

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the best part. the best part about these plants. 

they usually bloom ONCE per leaf pair every few years and when it comes up it comes up through the buttcheeks. they can be lots of different colors too, anything ranging from purples to whites and (in this case) yellows!

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all pics are from this site. they also have a huge database where u can look at all the different butts and butt varieties as well as care instructions!!! 10/10 would recommend 

that aside, this is 200% an amazing lithops butt flower picture and she is very happy, 10/10 amazing plant footage thank u @los-plantalones

vijara:

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kilterstreet:

self-healing:

recovery is not ‘soon i will be untouched, perfect, and in a permanent state of bliss. i will be healed and all will be well, forever.’

recovery is ‘i will continue to survive despite what happens, i will find ways to cope instead of continually tearing myself down. i will recover and will see myself in a light that i never thought was possible.’

Reminded of this excerpt from Getting Through the Day: Strategies for Adults Hurt as Children by Nancy J. Napier: “It also helps to remember that healing occurs in a spiral. We swing around again and again to the same old issues, but at different turns of the spiral. Each time we confront a similar feeling or reaction we have yet another opportunity to learn and to heal. Each time, we bring with us whatever new understanding we have gained since the last time we cycled through this particular difficulty.”

pigeoncheeks:

Pudge Needs Help

hey, so because of Irma i had to pay for a hotel room for my mom and siblings while i just try to ride it out at home. i should only have to pay for one night, but there might be some extra expenses with prices being jacked up, and i don’t get paid for another week, and i really don’t want to get overdrafted…


if y'all could help me out a bit that’d be great, and i’m sorry to have to ask :(


paypal.me/pigeoncheeks