glumshoe:

The other thing about the word “queer” is that almost everyone I’ve seen opposed to it have been cis, binary gays and lesbians. Not wanting it applied to yourself is fine, but I think people underestimate the appeal of vague, inclusive terminology when they already have language to easily and non-invasively describe themselves.

Saying “I’m gay/lesbian/bi” is pretty simple. Just about everyone knows what you mean, and you quickly establish yourself as a member of a community. Saying “I’m a trans nonbinary bi woman who’s celibate due to dysphoria and possibly on the ace spectrum”… not so much. You’re lucky to find anyone who understands even half of that, and explaining it requires revealing a ton of personal information. The appeal of “queer” is being able to identify yourself without profiling yourself. It’s welcoming and functional terminology to those who do not have the luxury of simplified language and occupy complicated identities. *That’s* why people use it - there are currently not alternatives to express the same sentiment.

It’s not people “oppressing themselves” or naively and irresponsibly using a word with loaded history. It’s easy to dismiss it as bad or unnecessary if you already have the luxury of language to comfortably describe yourself.

politicalprof:

therodentqueen:

llcoolade:

totallyfubar:

Pro tip for adulting: being late isn’t a death sentence for 95% of things. All you gotta do is call the moment you realize you’re gonna be late, apologize, and then give another small apology when you get there. The thing people really don’t like about lateness is that it seems like the other person doesn’t value their time, and since calling shows that you value their time, that leaves only the mild inconvenience of waiting a bit for them to deal with

this is 100% true. Calling ahead to let them know you’ll be late is 100000x better than just showing up late without any notice. Everyone has been late before so most of the time they’ll understand being late. Just don’t make a habit of it

This isn’t just for jobs, etc. Do this when you’re meeting with friends and family, too.

It’s about respect. Calling demonstrates it. It goes a long, long way, at least if it’s a once-in-a-while thing … 

trans-and-autistic:

casual, friendly reminder that if you feel like you’re “faking” being trans/nonbinary because you didn’t really question your gender until recently, you’re good

we don’t all get to grow up around informed or accepting people

being drowned in cis-hetero normativity makes it difficult to realize you could be anything other than what’s been fed to you your entire life….and even more difficult to accept it once you start questioning yourself

sometimes you need more time asking questions and appreciating other people who have already accepted their gender/sexuality to understand and feel comfortable with yourself

but once you do figure out exactly where you fit and find other people who respect and love you for who you are, it’s the most calming and beautiful feeling

saltandlimes:

teamceleries:

beesmygod:

konguloarkonan:

here’s a thing that i don’t think american kids are told often enough:

STAY AWAY FROM FOR-PROFIT COLLEGES.

ITT tech, virginia colleges, bryant and stratton, the art institutes, university of phoenix, everest, devry, etc - do NOT attend these places. do not give them your money - and it will be a lot of money. They are all, to a one, scams.

For-profit colleges prey on minority, low-income, military, nontraditional, and chronically underemployed students by promising them a quick path to a career. They are lying. They often do not allow the transfer of credits to and from, and many are either unaccredited or accredited by suspect accreditors. They rely on their students to take out massive federal student loan debt. They line their pockets with money from the government and then burden their graduates with tens of thousands of dollars of debt for inadequate education and degrees that aren’t worth the paper they’re printed on.

If you’re a non-traditional student looking for a degree, don’t go to a for-profit. Find a community college in your area instead. most ccs have more flexible class times for especially vocational/technical certifications and quite a few offer online-only or hybrid degrees. Hell, if you’re a non-trad student and you have a GED and some spare cash, try studying for a few months and then taking the SATs/ACT and trying for a four-year straight out (that’s what I did). Or get an AA and then do a four-year. Or look for a technical/adult education program sponsored by a local community college or school district. Just please, please, please, don’t go to a for-profit college. They will ruin your credit rating, your finances, and your job prospects.

this post was probably inspired by it but itt tech is almost certainly going into bankruptcy and closing probably asap which heralds the death knell of other for-profit colleges  since the us government is finally cutting off their financial assistance for students

Wish I’d known this earlier. Learn from my mistakes young ones

Additionally, if your goal is to get a job, the fastest growing job demand in the US is for people with associates degrees. So not only do you pay less in the short term, you get more for your investment. Added bonus: community college teachers are some of the most passionate, most devoted educators imaginable.