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It’s official, today the vast majority of Justin Trudeau’s Liberals sided with Conservatives and voted against an NDP motion calling for initial meetings with premiers to start a universal pharmacare program. 😐
like, I realize it’s more depressing than the alternative, but we’ve really got to stop flattering ourselves with the lie that Straight people have any interest, en masse, in pretending to be LGBTQIAPN+.
All it does is give us license to take our pain out on each other, by accusing other vulnerable people of being evil Straight spies and driving them out. Which is absolutely to the benefit of actual-Straightness; the kyriarchy loves it when we beat each other down so that they don’t have to.
It’s so weird to me when some people talk like this is an actual huge problem. Because it just… Isn’t. At all.
Right?
That “cringy” overly-invested Straight ally you (general you) knew in high school will probably come out one day, though maybe not to you, since you were such an eye-rolling jerk to them.
People who are drawn to the community are drawn there for a reason, usually because they can feel the rest of society shoving them violently away, and it would behoove us to stop acting like snotty mean girls guarding the year’s hottest party.
a thousand times this
The kyriarchy loves it when we beat each other down so that they don’t have to.
They also have some neat mermaid ornaments as well as some truly bizarre things like a leather daddy flamingo, but letâs be real, these mermen are the main appeal.
I have a handful of âmagicâ phrases that have made my professional career easier. Things like âyou are not your codeâ and my preferred way to say no: âthat doesnât work for me.â These are tools in my interpersonal skills toolbox. I find myself uttering phrases like, âright or effective, choose oneâ at least once a week. This week I realized I had another magic phrase, âwe donât do that here.â The college I attended was small and very LGBT friendly. One day someone came to visit and used the word âgayâ as a pejorative, as was common in the early 2000s. A current student looked at the visitor and flatly said, âwe donât do that here.â The guest started getting defensive and explaining that they werenât homophobic and didnât mean anything by it. The student replied, âIâm sure thatâs true, but all you need to know is we donât do that here.â The interaction ended at that point, and everyone moved on to different topics. âWe donât do that hereâ was a polite but firm way to educate the newcomer about our culture.
A useful script to deploy when faced with bigotry or similar disruptions to a group or workplace culture without going into ‘right vs. wrong’ talk that someone awful could attempt to argue with.
Every time I add a new birthday to my phone calendar, I set it to repeat yearly, so I don’t have to remember it every year. I get chills when it asks for an end date. Luckily, there’s a ‘no end date’ option, but it always feels a bit too Twilight Zone there for a second.
